Was wondering if there are any teachers or advanced dancers here that can help me with a teaching roadblock.. It's about dance connection between partners - that tension in the arms and frame that enables the leader to lead and the follower to follow - you know, the whole "spaghetti arms" thing. I have a group of students who have been with me for a couple of months. I've been teaching ballroom, latin and swing for years now, so I thought I knew lots of ways to explain this so students would understand...but this group is simply not getting it, no matter what I do.. and I have to assume that it's my fault. Here are the ways I've tried to show them: 1. By simply partnering with each student, and demonstrating the proper feel of a dance frame 2. by doing exercises where we connect with our partner and move into a sitting position, and back upright, forcing them to use some tension in their arms and keep their elbows near their centers, 3. In open swing dance position, I've used the whole "Our hands are sitting on a fence post between us, and as we dance they should stay in that spot if we have proper connection" - also the whole "coiled spring" analogy in the arms, 4. by explaining OVER AND OVER again how our arms are connected to our bodies, and don't just flop around independent of the torso, 5. explaining how to keep the elbows bent so that they stay closer to the body and don't extend the arm straight out from the shoulder, I've tried every way I can think of to get them to feel the "push pull" of a proper dance connection. We've reached the point where I just can't teach them anymore until we get some sort of connection going, because it's imperative to leading and following. These kids are not raw beginners - they lead and follow the basic bronze stuff like underarm turns, cuddle wraps, etc. It's the more advanced steps that require better connection that we can't do yet, because something is blocking us from getting this! I'm just really frustrated and felt like my head was going to explode last week when we spent a whole hour on it and there was barely any improvement. This leads me to believe I've been doing something wrong. If anyone has any tips, I'm all ears!!!