Ooh I didn't see this thread. This was all already discussed but I just wanted to throw my 2 cents in. Unintentional backleading is prevalent in beginner classes. The females ruin it for the guys when they do what the instructor says instead of what the guy leads. I don't know if I'm just that good a leader or if she is just doing what she knows she's supposed to. So, once in a while I'll just completely screw up the move on purpose to see if she'll follow my lead or just try to do her own thing. I always get questioning looks. hehe. That's also why I will always try to find a new person in the crowd and dance with her, someone from outside my studio, since dancing with the girls from my class I get overly confident when my lead is perfectly aligned with their expectations and everything flows smoothly. I get into big trouble when someone doesn't know that I'm leading a left turn and only THEN I find out that I should be more forceful with my lead or what not. Actually, I would prefer that a woman just do what she FEELS I'm leading. I started out doing a little Argentine Tango and this girl was a really sensitive follower. Initially I tried to dance with her and TOTALLY screwed her up and myself and felt like a jackass. So, I didn't dance with her for a couple months knowing how sensitive she was to everything that I was leading wrong and after those couple of months and having learned so much more I danced with her once again. I was in heaven, she followed exactly what I led and only then I knew that I must be doing something right. Now, when I ask about a certain move or combination in the salsa class, I always ask one of the good girls what it is that I could do to screw it up. They will always follow the guy's lead and purposefully act confused (in a kind way, though) to let you know you're pulling and pushing in the wrong way. I appreciate that.