I just thought I'd provide an update san this is still a challenge for me. Putting asking to dance outside, not so much of an issue. I still enjoy the lessons (when CBD isn't cutting dropping them all the time). However, unless I've got some new things, picked up from lessons that week, to practice at the party that week, I'm bored. In addition, if I haven't had any lessons in a particular dance for a few weeks (which happens a lot, again because CBD keeps dropping classes), then I forget everything except the most basic steps, and my confidence at parties takes a dive. I've been dancing three years, and you know what, I guess I'm just not a fast learner. The more I learn in lessons, generally speaking, the greater the gap between what I want to try (remember, to keep the boredom away), and what the average follower knows increases. This makes attempts at leading these new things more likely to go awry, which in turn increases my frustration and decreases my confidence. I know it's been said that a good dancer can make a follower to anything, yet no one, not even multiple private instructors has been able to impart this magical ability on me. Unless conditions are ideal, and I am dancing with a good follower, who knows the same steps as me, having gone to all the same recent group classes as as me (which rarely happens because CBD's group class attendance rate is terrible, and very few of them attend the parties), then generally speaking, that dance is not going to be a pleasurable experience. I'm generalizing of course, but there's enough of that happening to make the parties really frustrating. Surely everyone goes through this stage? How do you break out of it? Doug.