It's probably such a basic and obvious thing to ask, but I can't work it out for myself and I was hoping some of you good folks could help... Me and my partner are at the 'recent beginners' level at our local tango class. We'd been learning in open embrace the whole time and last night we were introduced to close embrace. The way the class works, the teachers try to rotate leaders and followers as much as possible, so everyone dances with everyone. We worked very slowly: standing a foot's width apart, leaning towards each other and connecting, and finally adding the arms. I got to try this with leaders of many shapes, sizes and ability, and managed to have some very comfortable dances - adjusting accordingly to each leader. HOWEVER - the few minutes at the end of the class where I got to try with my partner was not so successful. We tried again today with little joy. I'm 5'7" in my shoes and he's probably nearing 6'. We're both pretty slim if that means anything. If I keep my head straight forward and look over his right shoulder my nose and lips get buried in his shirt (not so good when I'm wearing lipstick) and the right side of my head gets pressed up against his jaw, straining my neck. When I've tried turning my head to the right more my forehead presses his jaw and is still uncomfortable. He also complained his right arm was going numb, even though I wasn't gripping him with my left. He has a tendency to stand up straight (i.e. not leaning forward on the balls of his feet), grip with his left hand and I've been known to stick my butt out! Despite our deficiencies we still managed to have comfortable dances in close embrace with others, but it's been pretty rotten together! The reason why I'm asking you is because our teachers will be on holiday for a couple of weeks and we'd like to work on this without any further upset. Any ideas?