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Discussion in 'General Dance Discussion' started by Sandcastles, May 31, 2007.

  1. SPratt74

    SPratt74 New Member

    Amazingly enough, I've had a lot of profile hits! One of them that is in my area (that I happen to know lol) saved me as part of his favorites. What does that mean? Oh, and I received another email from a dancer wanting to meet me, and I was able to open it up and read it. Problem is that he was from Florida, and I can't and will not relocate. Oh well. Maybe we can meet up at a comp. some place lol. ;)
  2. Chris Stratton

    Chris Stratton New Member

    Seen their announcement of a directory of dancers who can be hired as a partner to attend a social with you?
  3. NielsenE

    NielsenE Active Member

    I was wondering when they'd start exploiting that market. Thought it looks like at first, at least, they're doing it completely for free....
  4. SPratt74

    SPratt74 New Member

    Are you serious? Would you ever do something like that though? I can't see where there would be a reason for this option.
  5. Chris Stratton

    Chris Stratton New Member

    Would I do it? Probably not.

    However, I have to say that while I dislike the idea of paying someone to dance with you, I think some good has come of it. Some of the dancers working in that field are quite good, and some of the paying clients are fairly good students. The result is that some of it turns out to be unusually high quality dancing in a social setting, due to the particaption of people who might not otherwise be spending their time dancing in a social setting.

    I've had a few dances with some of the better clients while their hired partner was dancing with one of their friends, and found that they had the skills and habits to take social ballroom to a much higher level of dancing than is often encountered. You could ask why they need to hire partners then, but I suspect its because they can afford to, and that one of the reasons they were easy to dance with is that they are used to being able to trust a partner to get it right - they've been building dancing habits instead of defensive or coping habits. But then, by moving from the usual locations for "party dancing" out into a social with an unusually high level of dancing, they may have already distinguished themselves as a bit above average.
  6. SPratt74

    SPratt74 New Member

    That's interesting. I can see depending on the situation to where you might want someone like that. And maybe the one time I would is if I moved to a big city to where I didn't know anyone. It would be safe to hire someone to go with you I guess. Also, if I were much older, and I just started dancing or what have you, then I would probably do something like that. I'm starting to see a few reasons why. I just have never heard of anything like that, so it peaked my interest so to speak lol! ;)
  7. waltzgirl

    waltzgirl Active Member

    I suppose it's a way to ensure that you have a good partner all evening. If the ladies who do it are better than average dancers, then they might not get really good dances at their level very often otherwise.
  8. anp73ga31

    anp73ga31 Active Member

    Thats kind of silly, IMO. Why would you hire a dancer for a social? Just take private lessons and dont go to the social if you cant dance with the people who go to the social. I dunno...just seems weird. I've often thought that if I ended up sitting out most of socials I'd just not go anymore and take a private lesson instead as often as I could. Its the same thing but you dont have to worry about the other women trying to take the man you hired from you(and some of the older ladies will do it, too!). ha ha! Which is a funny thought...what would you have him tell her? "Sorry, I cant dance with you because she's paid for me tonight." hee hee! I changed my would be worth doing it just for the reactions you'd get from it. lol! I wonder if a bidding war would ensue...he'd be the most popular guy there! :ladiesma:
  9. elisedance

    elisedance New Member

    I certainly considered it - and would have done it too if it was not a change of circumstances. If you dance pro/am your lesson is also your practice session - not a very satisfactory state of affairs. Its hard to find anyone who dances at your level for practice or to go to social dances and dance at your best. Paid practice dancers generally cost a lot less than a lesson and since you are paying you (meaning the woman) get to call the shots too as to which dances to do and what you would like to work on. ITs the same advantage as Pro/Am itself where the woman gets a lot more say in her development.

    Its a great idea and I can't even see what is odd about it. Perhaps one should think of it not as a pathetic woman without a partner (which is one way to look at it, or even worse, a woman paying for a date) but instead as a successful woman ensuring that she satisfies in an important aspect of her life: dancing at her best.

    That said its I doubt that it is anywhere as good as an Am partner with the same skills and goals that you have - thats like paying each other to dance!
  10. quixotedlm

    quixotedlm New Member

    hey, where is the link to sign up to be an 'escort' ? ;) I'd love to sign up... a few extra bucks couldn't hurt me ...
  11. etp777

    etp777 Active Member

    Know my sister (teacher/pro) has invited male teachers she works with to wedding reception before. With something like that, with old friends from high school, kinda nice to be able to show off a bit when something is your main interest and goal in life. Sure she could have backled any decent guy dancer she randomly met at the reception and looked impressive out there, but level of what she can do with another pro is another whole thing.

    Course, i've done same thing to show off a bit during general dancing at some of the comps, etc. Will generally pick at least one dance where I make sure I pick one of the teachers I'm friends with or one of better dancers in our region and just enjoy being able to do the more difficult stuff. Most of time my only rule is to dance with students from other studios (help the interstudio relationships), and not to dance with anyone more than once or twice, but once or twice will pick someone to dance with just to look as good as possible out there. :)
  12. samina

    samina Well-Known Member


    this is a service i'd consider using, depending upon rate & compatibility with the hired partner.
  13. samina

    samina Well-Known Member

    not weird at all. done all the time -- my pro has regular partners this way and his time is heavily lobbied for.

    he's yours for the night, totally focused on dancing everything with you... and i'm sure he's very skilled at responding that he's with his particular partner for the night. i've done this and love it -- would do it every weekend if i could afford it. we sit out WCS and hustle, but do everything else. it's fabulous...
  14. GJB

    GJB Well-Known Member

    It seems common in our area now. I never saw this 5-10 years ago.

    I would do it if I had the money.
  15. LucyDiamond

    LucyDiamond Active Member

  16. samina

    samina Well-Known Member

    it's a great way for the pros to enhance their revenue & exposure, too, i think. it's not an easy way to make a living...

    i have so much respect for what they have to put up with when they dance socially this way, as well, especially the men, who get hung upon by ladies who don't carry their own weight.
  17. waltzgirl

    waltzgirl Active Member

    During lessons, I'm paying my pro to teach me, not to just dance with me. Except for pre-comp rounds, we rarely dance more than one wall before stopping to work on something. In five years, I have literally never danced a full two minute song during a lesson (rounds are usually 1 min. 20 sec.).

    Fortunately, my pro usually goes to the socials, so I always get a few real dances with him there.
  18. GJB

    GJB Well-Known Member

    You are very fortunate ! ! !
  19. SPratt74

    SPratt74 New Member

    I just checked out this option, and sure enough... I found some for hire in my area. Interesting. That's alright though. Some of them are teachers is all. Makes me wonder if they charge less or more for their time than with private lessons. I guess I learned something new today! ;)
  20. bordertangoman

    bordertangoman Well-Known Member

    What an interesting idea:

    taxi anyone? :raisebro:

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