Sometimes I feel that DF members are overly sensitive. While using this forum, I frequently feel that things are taken very personally & members can get very defensive. Quite often while on this forum I feel a sense of black & white, I'm right, you're wrong, rather than open discussions to consider engaging a more multifaceted perspective from the experiences of others who see beyond our own noses just as we do for them. I learn insightful things from others here. There are far more views to many threads than posts my observation. Perhaps it is because people fear being accosted & would rather view from the outside without signing up as members themselves. I sense that the majority of members seem to be of a competitive nature & should be taken into account when posting to avoid conflict. To me this results in the necessity to phrase things in an extraordinarily delicate manner, more so than often required in general public. That is not to say this forum may or may not be considered a diversely mixed crowd, but it is a sub-culture with it's own ways in my opinion. Objective perspectives I often feel are a minority on here & there seem to be cliques. In my opinion, there seems to be a divide between the social dancers & the competitive dancers & it's sometimes apparently abrasive at times within the interaction of the two on this forum. I think, some members seem to garner fixed notions on other members based on what they write & almost begrudge them in any foreseeable opinions they may write. I feel that this comes from both sides of the camp to each other. In my opinion, the confidence of one's convictions can sometimes take the façade of a defiance or conceit. I feel that, while it should exude a more receptive ear in the knowledge of being comfortable that one's existential reality is not being challenged, but trying to be understood by someone outside of it when a question or other opinion is being offered. Sometimes it may seem that the predictability of member's likes or dislikes for something can almost make one reluctant to avoid members accusing each other of instigating conflict or being deliberately offensive or discriminating. I think it would be nice if opinions could be shared without others taking things quite so literally & more figuratively or as speculation. I can understand that it's easy to simply ask someone to go away rather than talk things through. When one has many associated who agree with one's school of thought it can be even easier. But what of our compassion to those who also inhabit in a sub-culture with us? Is it not enough that isn't part of the main culture. Do we not want for it to expand rather than shrink by pushing each other down & away? Let's not be kind by under threat of expulsion, let us be kind by understanding. Those are my feelings & offerings to my fellow members.