I hope you all don't mind if a ballroom person butts in here, but I'm a BR follower who, well, follows; we have no routine. And all the questions and comments you've made here have been questions and issues I've dealt with as a BR follower. When it's good, when the leader gives me where/when/what/how much, and then lets me respond to it, it's very good indeed. But rare is the leader who demands or expects that from me; many are surprised and displeased when I respond fully. So I go back to being a good girl. The OP said: In the immortal words of Oliver North's lawyer, I am not a potted plant.