my friend and I went to negracha (London's premier venue for foot injuries) for the first time in ages tonight, and she was complaining about a couple of head pressers. I have noticed this too. we are little and in close embrace with some one our size (unusal when you are 5'3" in very high heels) and there is some non bearded/stubbly face contact, it is fine. however if the man (never leading ladies) is taller sometimes they will bend down to head press. It is dreadful as their chests become concave and you lose the point of connection unless you stick your bum out. I REFUSE TO STICK MY BUM OUT FOR ANYONE. Personally I always try to maintain my posture whatever weird things they are doing, but when they are forcing their foreheads on you it's pretty hard to cope with the downward pressure and you get neck ache. My friend tonight, got fed up and pushed herself into open embrace, but to her horror, he just pushed his head forward to maintain temple contact, then she realised... He was leading almost entirely with his head. i was watching this and it looked seriously weird as he pushed her backwards on to her heels-like someone slowly being run over by a steam roller. She is a uk size 6 (so what 45 kg? probably less, I don't know, I just know we swap too big/too small clothes) so it's hard to get the forward pressure to match a 5'10 man bearing down on her. I imagine it as a moment effect with her feet being the fulcrum. How do we deal with head pressers if we don't like it and the arm push away doesn't work? I'm sure people are going to weigh in with "Well of course this is a very authentic style of dancing, dating back to 1657, and an accepted way to lead blah blah blah." I'm sure it is, but in much the way I prefer dancing classis salon style or "milonguero" to the new salon style or nuevo (unlike my friend who is sucker for vulcadas going into boleos and back flips) I don't like it and neither does she, so how do we avoid the looming faces?