Ballroom Dance > holding onto woman's breast - during dance

Discussion in 'Ballroom Dance' started by aaah, Nov 24, 2012.

  1. tanya_the_dancer

    tanya_the_dancer Well-Known Member

    You know, by now I think I'm so desensitized to accidental brief touch, that I hardly notice it. The hand has to be there for a while for me to notice and even longer to convince me to do something about it. The only time I ever did something about it was at the group class I mentioned earlier on the thread, when I realized that I'll have to put up with it for the next hour unless I do something about it. Shadow position is probably the biggest source of problems because if the guys go for the same hold they would do on a more conventionally-sized lady, they get a handful on me.
  2. aaah

    aaah Member

    ok thanks I see the conversation wandered off to occasional brushes

    as to your second comment because it is very obvious ..I was putting things in context - at the social dances if you are skinny and pretty - you are popular and attract a lot of attention even if your skill level is zero in essence ..this points to possible non dance motives
    the lady I mentioned was a relative newbie

    thanks all for feedback
  3. twnkltoz

    twnkltoz Well-Known Member

    It doesn't matter what she looks like. Breast grabbing is inappropriate, and it happens to girls of all shapes and sizes.
  4. twothreefourone

    twothreefourone Active Member

    And boys. All-male rumba... once was enough.
  5. danceronice

    danceronice Well-Known Member

    Heh, and I'm starting to think I'm even less well-endowed than I thought! (That or sufficient closed-hold Standard has kind of tuned me out to upper-chest contact while dancing...)
  6. Gorme

    Gorme Active Member

    On any other occasion, dinner must be bought before any of this can occur.
  7. cornutt

    cornutt Well-Known Member

    That can be arranged... :D Seriously, my DW is well endowed, and, well, it definitely encourages one to maintain a proper topline and lead through the core. I find that if I try to lead through my upper body, I just bounce off. :p
  8. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    well...that I don't even bat an eyelash over...unless, um, depending upon person involved, I happen to be particularly attuned:cool:
  9. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    dinner? that is all it takes? :)
  10. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

  11. jump'n'jive

    jump'n'jive Well-Known Member

    oh this thread.....:)
  12. Peaches

    Peaches Well-Known Member

    Heh. I remember one time during a lesson my teacher brushed my chest accidentally, with his forearm, I think. I never noticed; I was too focused on the dancing or instruction or whatever was going on. He apologized, and I had no clue what he was apologizing for, which left him explaining. Awkward moment. Talk about desensitized.
  13. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    this is soooooooooooooooooooo mild compared to the good old days :)
  14. DL

    DL Well-Known Member

    Give me an excuse to resurrect the thread most memorable to me, and I will. :)
  15. jump'n'jive

    jump'n'jive Well-Known Member

    who needs excuses, bring it!
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  16. Wannabee

    Wannabee Well-Known Member

    I'm quite certain your frustration over my post is a bit over dramatic don't you think? And by your own admission, you didn't even bother to read the posts and follow the conversation, so that you would know when and why I posted what I did.

    Secondly, though I did bother to read your posts and you somewhat addressed your obsession with the petite, skinny, pretty thing (though it still seems strange that you insist that this is crucial info to the situation), ANY woman, or man for that matter, can experience abuse. Physical, sexual, emotional abuse is not reserved only for the "skinny, petite, pretty" people.

    But I will yield to you being correct that I wandered off topic I suppose. In the future though, you may want to read and consider all the posts that people are kind enough to offer before making decisions regarding their relevance, as sometimes threads do take an unexpected tangent, even despite the efforts of our mods.
  17. Gorme

    Gorme Active Member

    One time I was social dancing VW with a lady and she tripped backwards over her own foot. She grabbed onto me and pulled me down on top of her. So not only did she land flat on her back, but I landed on top of her. Instinctively, I had held my hand out in front of me to brace for the impact. Unfortunately, my right hand ended up fully on her breast. I was horrified that I had just punched a woman in the chest when she suddenly popped back up and started asking if i was alright. To top all of that, her teacher happened to be sitting next to where this accident happened. Awkward...
  18. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    yes...I for one, tend to be lenient about tangents if, and only if, I feel that the bulk of what can be offered regarding the original OP has happened and as long as it doesn't become inflammatory
  19. clumsy fellow

    clumsy fellow Active Member

    If it is plausible that a gentleman has a handful and not be aware, as some have argued... Is it equally plausible that you have filled a gentleman's hand and not been aware?

    Tongue. Cheek. Planted.
  20. DL

    DL Well-Known Member


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