Where I dance, a lot of the girls just can not lock into the rhythm of salsa. They dance too fast, a lot. I personally can't stand dancing off time but I'm wondering if I'm shooting myself in the foot when I dance a normally fast song (as opposed to a very fast one) and I try to stay on beat. I do my best to keep them on beat, without forcing them. I try to keep it interesting and simple and I engage them. I use a lot of personality and creativity when I dance. I have a very light attitude. I smile constantly. I always accept the blame and I try to keep the pressure off of the girl. What I'm trying to say is that I do everything I can to keep it fun for them. Sometimes I vocalize the music to make the beat more obvious without making it obvious that I am helping them hear the beat. Sometimes I count. But I don't want to be a teacher when I dance socially. But it seems like they enjoy themselves so much more when they dance with guys who can't hear the beat. And these guys aren't like beginners either. In fact some of them are teachers. They are good leaders with good control, balance, connection and body movement. They also include a lot of creativity in their dance. Some of them have been dancing for years, so they know quite a bit. They just can't dance with the music. They essentially know what they are doing so I don't think that it's a matter of the girls being nervous when they dance with me. What do you do when you get a girl who just can not get into the music? What if her balance is off enough that she is constantly falling out of her steps and turns? What if she is capable of doing a lot of moves but she just can't do them in time? Do you "influence" her timing with good body leads? Count for her? Go with her flow? Keep it simple? Make it complicated? Try to make simple moves more fun? Show them new moves? Or what? I try all of those and it just doesn't seem to keep them as happy as the guys who can't hear the beat. It's almost like they would rather dance fast even if it's not on beat. What can I do to make it fun for them? Should I compromise and dance faster than the music?