I'm new to this forum so please forgive me if this has been discussed somewhere else in the past. I've been dancing for going on 9 months now, not so long in the grand scheme of things but far more than a lot of the other people in my studio. Since I'm one of the younger types at my studio, I try to keep a peppy and upbeat attitude -- I know everyone's name, I smile and laugh and make encouraging jokes when I'm dancing with someone who might appear a bit uncomfortable to be dancing steps that are new for them. The main thing is that I don't criticize people when they do things wrong, if I say anything at all it'll be to the extent of "next time we dance we'll TOTALLY get that" or whatnot. However, last night one of the students who had been on vacation for a few weeks came back and I ran into a situation I have no idea how to deal with. He's always been a poor leader, leading with his shoulders rather than his hips, trying to use his arms to push you wherever he thinks you should go. (We'll ignore the fact that he tries to teach cuban motion to the newcomers but has no idea how to do it himself, etc.) Usually I can avoid dancing with him but there was only one class last night and we were all rotating. We were working on peekaboos in salsa and cha cha and somehow he got it into his head that by pulling the woman's arm she'll turn (when we already know we need to turn by the lead of the pattern.) So, while facing in a completely awkward direction, he ripped my arm around, causing my shoulder to pop painfully. It was the end of the pattern, so while attempting to pretend that nothing was severely wrong, I thanked him and moved on, trying to figure out how to tell him politely to stop yanking on the woman's arm. I didn't come up with anything worthwhile and I didn't want to seem too preachy, so I just moved on. Next time around, same problem, except I let go of his hand at that point in the move, so he looks at me like I'm trying to lead (I've been accused of this before when I get an ambiguous lead and take the route I think they're intending, only to be told I'm "leading." But that's beside the point.) When we were rotating I asked him if he could try to not yank my arm so much, as it was painful. He looked confused, as if he had no idea what he was doing, or what I was saying. Rotation again, repeat, etc. I avoided him throughout the practice party following, except for a mixer when we all rotate quickly to fox trot. He pushed me so hard across the floor I nearly missed a step (ankle popped but I got the whole foot on the floor to avoid falling over.) I have longer legs than he does, too! Whewh, rant! I think I feel better now, or something. I call upon the expertise of the masses: Help! Should I go to his teacher and beg them to teach him to lead better, should I talk to him? I don't want to seem like I'm trying to be his teacher, but I can't even dance with him without fearing for my own safety, and if he injures me, I will NOT be alright. I've lost toenails, been bruised up the wazoo... all of that can be danced with, but I actually fear for a major injury to one of my joints when I dance with him. There's so much that makes a girl uncomfortable to dance with him, he tries to yank you in when you're dancing tango or salsa, and it should be up to the woman to choose the frame in a social setting. It's not fun to fight with the person you're trying to dance with.