I am a dancer and my husband is totally off beat. I did not force the issue during our wedding dance. We did a very basic line dance and he was fair with it. But I'm still very happy with how our wedding dance went. Anyway, it was our wedding and not a dance competition so I was not stressing so hard to show off my dancing skills.
Thanks for all tips guys!! He does want to learn, he just doesn't like dancing with people he doesn't know so he stays home when I go to group classes. He already knows ECS so we might try that, but if it doesn't work I'll take the advise to get a teacher I don't know the guy part at all for foxtrot.