Is a person's dance form a good indicator of their character? On Saturday I attended a non-salsa wedding. Upon hearing a poor but popular salsa I desperately scanned the other tables looking for anyone who may have the slightest salsa spirit. I noticed one gentleman bopping to the beat (we'll call him BeatBopper or BB.) Eventually, I resorted to asking the DJ to dance since he had previously mentioned knowing a little salsa. He was actually pretty good though I prefer mambo on2 and he danced on1. BB noticed me dancing & asked me to dance the next salsa which came too many songs later. I was so happy to dance to my music... yet so disappointed by the end. BB was one of those guys who is so damn flashy & into himslef that I'm shocked he was still in front of me by the end of the song & not in front of the glass doors that reflected the image from which he could not tear his eyes away- his own. He was only concerned with how he looked & whether he had covered all the solo shines he knew. I was tossed, dragged, flung & to give his performance a grand finale, he triple spun me into a sudden dip :shock: . The onlookers applauded, I was disgusted (yet like a lady I bowed & smiled) and made it a point not to dance with him again. Later in the evening, BB invited himslef to sit next to me and continued his dance routine with me only verbally this time. He was the arrogant, full of himself show-off he was on the dance floor. Ceaselessly talking about himself. I threw the existence of a boyfriend in my life into the conversation and he had the audacity to ask if I were happy in the relationship- that should say enough about a guy. I could not help but laugh out loud :lol: , dismiss his comment & swiftly excuse myself escaping to the refuge of a strong drink & much better conversation with the bartender. I barely get to know men with whom I dance, but from just a few experiences, I realize that dancing is just like engaging in a conversation. You communicate who & how you are in your movements, style, attention to your partner, eye contact, etc. My regular dance partner gets lost in the dance and not in himself. Although, sometimes he gets so absorbed in the song he may not notice new moves I attempt to show off to him-lol! Nontheless, I'd much rather have someone lost in the song than in themselves, totally disregarding the person with whom they are sharing those oh so few minutes.