While dancing yesterday, the term "Leadable Tension" came up; that good followers should have it. Ok, nobody likes to lead someone who is tense. In terms of arm tension, some people perfer a nice strong 'resist', others perfer soft & supple (with strong fingers though). This, however, extends beyond just the arms......I think we are referring to body tension. The leadability is closely related to responsiveness here. The feedback being made to me was that (when being lead) I feel "too soft" (ie. I somehow absorbed the tension, resulting in a slower response) as opposed to someone who has ballroom training with the correct tension. However, what I've learnt from Cubans (more relates to Casino styles I gathered) was the emphasis on (almost) total relaxation (similar in Tai Chi), resulting in a laid-back (somewhat slower) style. What do you guys think.....? Does one interfers with the other? Do I have to have different tension levels to suit my partners accoding to their preferences.....?