Well, my first Congress was impressive... unfortunately it's over, but many more are to come! I think I'm gonna talk about Congresses a lot! :lol: Question: I danced with some leaders (very advanced, one of them even top instructor and dancer - I won't mention his name) who I found were very rough. Others (like Super Mario and not only him - but he's the first that came to my mind) are very soft, yet firm. I could follow the latter (inlcuding those mind and body-twisting patterns of Super Mario) without any problem... The leading was clear and I didn't need to know the move... also I didn't feel the height difference (he's extremely tall and well-built and I am short and slim). So, my question is: how forceful is a leader supposed to be? I am not a master dancer, maybe an intermediate to advanced, but I had no problem following very hard moves with some guys... with others, even easy moves seemed forced! And these guys even used a hold I am not used to: by the wrist! Any experiences or ideas that might help me understand such differences better?