Oh!! I guess it depend on the person. I like to lead CBL's and inside turns with hands on hips. Better for the less experience followers as the lead is dead clear. For the advanecd followers one can play with the music, letting the follower into it almost when it is too late, resulting in a extra crispness to the moves. However, you better know what you are doing. Followers can usually get an idea of what your intention is. If you want to use the hips to add flavor to the dancing it usually is ok. If you come across as sleazy and wanting to touch the lady all over you are in hot water. So MP? You sound pretty desperate to touch the ladies hips. Not a good start, guy. Not a good start.