More Support for Men Learning How to Dance

Discussion in 'Dance Articles' started by Pass It On, May 6, 2003.

  1. PunkDancer

    PunkDancer New Member

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    Thanks for the info. and for your experiences and opinions to the questions. Vince: I'll be 18 soon. (started when I turned 16). But I dont let other peoples remarks alter the way I feel about dancing at all. I just wanted to know if all male dancers deal with the same problems. But for me its a little more then that. because my own girlfriend makes remarks about it. Including other people I deal with on a daily basis. I learned salsa and merengue from my family. I even teach other kids in dance class. But the studio I dance at dont teach latin dance. Its HipHop, Tap, Ballet, Jazz, and Tumbling. But just me being in Ballet results in people questioning my sexual orientation. They also are a little taken back by my flexability.
    :)
    But again nobody can say anything that will alter how I feel about dance.
     
  2. Sagitta

    Sagitta Well-Known Member

    Good for you PunkDancer!! :cheers:
     
  3. Sagitta

    Sagitta Well-Known Member

    I want to say something, but my mom is saying no. :(
     
  4. PunkDancer

    PunkDancer New Member

    wow! some one gots a Big Head! :wink: (danoo)
     
  5. DancePoet

    DancePoet Well-Known Member

    And to think Sagitta was biting his tongue! Lol. ;)
     
  6. love2swing

    love2swing New Member

    Re: Lets get back on this subject!

    Well, my fiance used to get crap from his work friends. They are all the macho, stereotypical construction worker guys. But then, a couple weeks ago when a couple of them asked him to play basketball with them the following day, he declined and said he had a dance lesson. He said they all got looks on their faces like they were going to make fun of him, and then one guy's facial expression changed completely and said "Man, I've always wanted to know how to do that." And a few other guys admitted the same thing. Well, we passed out business cards, and now a few of them take lessons at the same studio we do. The point of this story? I don't know-- just dont' worry about what other people think. If you want to do it and it's something you enjoy, just go for it!

    Also, women love a man who can dance! Just throw that in if anyone questions your sexuality.
     
  7. PunkDancer

    PunkDancer New Member

    I also got from your story that: the people laughing could be interested in the same thing, they just laugh to avoid the situation you are in now.(being laughed at!)
     
  8. DancePoet

    DancePoet Well-Known Member

    Way to go love2swing! Great story!
     
  9. DWise1

    DWise1 Well-Known Member

    One word:
    "It's important to have good solid basics."

    And connection.
     
  10. PunkDancer

    PunkDancer New Member

    Plus it not good to laugh at people in any situation. " They may forget what you said, But they will never forget how you made them feel." Me I got inspired by college guys doing cheer. I want to start now. Did you know that when cheerleading started it was mostly or all guys!!? and all straight. So I dont know why people think of it as "only homosexuals cheer!" :?:

    Who knows what will be said whats I start that!!?
     
  11. Danoo

    Danoo New Member

    *looks around and points to himself*
    me never :p
     
  12. cocodrilo

    cocodrilo New Member

    I can't offer my honest opinion on this subject as I have never dated a dancer. All I can say is that the latinos I know in the salsa scene are pretty passionate guys, and some of them are quite sexy, so hmmmm. I might believe that report... :wink:
     
  13. DancingMommy

    DancingMommy Active Member

    Let's be perfectly candid...

    My main requirement (after religous ones) was that my husband to be be a "better dancer than me". ;) I lucked out. :idea:

    And having been married "before" to a pathetically bad (read can't dance to save his life) dancer, I can honestly say the article DOES in fact ring true.
     
  14. danceguy

    danceguy New Member

    Great post tsb, I agree fully with this. It really hit home for me when I think of dancing at your partner's level, accepting them for who they are...and then with a little positive encouragement a more experienced person can allow the other to learn and grow. Not forcing or making their partner dance at a level that's above them...but allowing their expressive and passionate side to come out. Many times the good dancer/lover is hidden away and has been too hurt or intimidated by bad experiences to come to the surface. But when someone is able to make that breakthrough... :)

    When I see men using women in an abusive way on the dance floor...I try not to imagine how they treat their lovers. A few weeks ago I was at a huge Salsa club and there were 3 guys dancing with this one girl who was a spinning tornado machine. One guy would dance with her, spin her 20 times (plus a few other tricks) and then pass her off to one of his friends. It was one of the biggest displays of ego and soul-less dancing I have ever seen. But in all honesty...what it reminded me of was pornography...dancing without any heart and soul...if true Salsa is like lovemaking...then this was the exact opposite. :oops: :roll:

    SG
     
  15. Laura

    Laura New Member

    Once again I'm jumping in late, so I'll just speak to the original topic.

    I was just talking to a friend of mine who is currently in China. My friend tells me that at the dancesport training schools there, girls pay twice as much as boys to attend. It used to be the the girls would pay and the boys would get in free, but this has changed. Still, I wonder what effect doing a sort of "ladies' night in reverse" would have in the US? Bars and clubs have drink and admission discounts to attract women, why not have partner dance clubs and studios try the reverse? I guess it would only work if cost rather than personal and clutural inhibitions were a major barrier to men starting partner dancing.
     
  16. Chris Stratton

    Chris Stratton New Member

    I wonder though if one gender feeling a sense of being "in demand" creates some odd, negative tone to the interaction - sort of a license to take advantage of that status.
     
  17. Laura

    Laura New Member

    Well, that's already the case with dancesport in the US, so it's not like we'd be creating a new situation :)
     
  18. peachexploration

    peachexploration New Member

    Right SG, this is one of the MAIN reasons I stay away from clubs unless I come with a partner. :?
     
  19. Chris Stratton

    Chris Stratton New Member

    But a lot of these apparent demographic differences get reversed in an adjacent level or style or region... so sometimes you have to wonder if the real problem is a tendancy to define others by their current appearence rather than by even their near term potential.

    Of course a bar or a social dance is mostly about immediate potential... wheras dating or a partnership can be as much about future possibility as the present.
     
  20. tj

    tj New Member

    Care to qualify your statement further? I’ve done this exact sort of thing before with a couple of my buddies, and the 4 of us were having a wonderful time. We weren't doing it for the audience - it was a mutual appreciation for the artistry of my two male friends as well as her ability to handle all of it and fit her own styling within the greater framework of the dance.

    I don't think that the act of 3 leads sharing a follow is an ego/soul-less dancing thing at all. Maybe to someone watching, but I could give a hoot about what that person is thinking.
     

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