I started with a new partner some time ago, hoping to compete with him in Standard. It's pleasant to dance with him until we try to dance with music. He is just off beat, especially in quicker dances. It's a little strange to me, as he obviously thinks of himself as a more advanced dancer than me (and I agree). I had other partners before, pro- and am-, and I never faced this problem. He tells me not to worry about music so much and just follow him, but I just can't do it. Then he starts telling me it's my poor technique that makes us off-music. I gave it some time, thinking it might improve, but it doesn't. I suggested we go to rounds and maybe just dance simpler routines to develop that connection with music, but he doesn't want to do rounds until we "get better". At this point, I pretty much decided it's hopeless to continue with him. Has anyone else had this problem? How can I help the situation? and can I, really? The funny thing is that I realized we almost never dance with music at lessons, every time our instructor offers music, my partner says: "no, let's just work on this particular figure", which we do for the next 45 min. Maybe I should bring it up with the instructor? Maybe it IS all my fault? I already decided I need to start looking for a new partner, but maybe there is still hope.