And while we're discussing random child and money related questions, what do y'all think about college expenses? Just curious. The ex and I used to have this argument all the time. (Don't worry. I argued with him because I hated his guts. I have much affection for DFers. No sweat. I won't argue with you. :lol: ) The ex thinks that, when it's time for college, he and I should write checks to cover everything. To the ex, a college education is an inalienable right and the key to success just as much as food, clothing and shelter. Parents should pay. I think that DS should be encouraged to get excellent grades, apply himself, and do whatever it takes to cover as much of his own education expenses as he can, via scholarships and (if/when feasible) an honest day's work. And then I'll kick in the rest. I really don't want him burdened with student loans. My college education philosophy is similar to the car example above (and draws on the China's requirement that people work a couple years before going to uni.) I think DS will value his education more if he has to work to help pay for it. I realize that there are a billion permutations, here, but I am curious. Who do you think should pay for college and why? No judgment. Just an honest question.