Hmm. You make a good point, fasc. I am allowing DS to use me as a go-between. He's a very mature young man, IMO, and maybe it's time for me to let/require him to discuss his views directly with his father. Just cutting his father off with no explanation is not a good precedent to set. How much DS discloses is up to him. But he's man enough, IMV, to say to his father, "'I don't want to talk to you right now. I'll call you when I'm ready." By the custody arrangement, I'm required to "make DS available" for communication. But that's fuzzy. DS isn't four years old anymore. I don't need to call his father or answer DS' phone for him. The boy has his own cell phone, computer, facebook, myspace, text messaging capability, email, etc. His father can contact him, if DS chooses to allow it. I shouldn't be in the middle.