pygmalion's dating advice thread

Lc it was definitely an overshare. Less is more sometimes.

Yeah well, if you haven't noticed I'm not very good at being concise.

That's not what I meant at all. Not how much you share. WHAT you share.

Thank you, DL. Truly.

BTW, regarding date ideas, i am the active/adventurous type.

In fact, i was thinking that for our 4 year anniversary, i would plan a surprise date for my BF and i to go take a trapeze lesson. I thought it would be a fun trust building exercise.

What about those zip line thingies?

This. The whole concept isn't novel to anyone but you, apparently, LC. We don't want to hear it.

Regarding zip lines, trapeeze, rock-climbing, etc--make sure your SO isn't afraid of heights!

Again, I ask you please to challenge yourself to honor the list of requests I made.

I think they go hand in hand though. I tend to get a lot of tmi responses but it's probably cause I tend to throw out an over-abundance of detail in trying to explain something, thinking that if I leave out this piece of info or that they might miss what I'm trying say. I dunno, does that make sense?

then you need to work on articulating yourself with grace. you need to learn how to get a CONCEPT across rather than a concrete example. you can probably take a class on it.

yes, def recommend that these ideas NOT be used for first dates! lol

I have heard recently that a male female bond is more likely to occur when they go through something scary together....

so scare her and be her hero to cling onto

But what if the guy is the one afraid of heights? lol. I couldn't do any of those activities and for the record I don't like roller coasters either.

well then you cling to her when you're scared

(blokes do get scared too, y'know. I had scared blokes in stereo when i went to see Sixth Sense. both with their GFs too. Jumpy as catfish every time something happened on screen. they were scarier than the movie...)( of course I dont scare easy.)

I for one am done with LC. Let's see how much longer DL and ww last...

last word @LC: you're spoiling this for the rest of us. please, zip it. this thread has been a great source of conversation and idea for us for years, and you come along and already we are starting to feel uncomfortable about having or normal conversations - because we are afraid that your interactions are going to make it awkward ro worse. if this isn't the definition of a troll, i dunno what is. your intention may not be malicious, but your actions are close to being that.

This. And there was recently an interaction involving another non-regular participant of this thread that soured the atmosphere, as well. This does not warm my heart. Not one bit.

Chaseball, these are my FINAL words on your situation. I note that you stated in a prior post that you thought you needed to see a therapist. That was my first thought, after I read your first couple of posts. As a matter of fact, I wish I had gone to see one when I was your age-and that was many decades ago. If I had, I may have accomplished a lot more, and been a lot happier. However, as my dear mother used to say, "you can't cry over spilt milk." I hope that you don't make the same mistake(s) that I made, and that you do start seeing a therapist or psychiatrist. Good luck.

Then we have very different ideas of the definition of "troll" I'm not just looking for attention or trying to ruin your thread. My intent was to seek advice and I'm sorry if I've been stubborn and monopolized discussion. I truly don't think there's much left to say though for now, just going in circles.

From the Urban Dictionary:

1. troll

One who posts a deliberately provocative message to a newsgroup or message board with the intention of causing maximum disruption and argument