Oh, I can hazard a number of guesses. But that is all they are, guesses. And none of them would come anywhere close to warranting her actions which demonstrate such immense hatred towards me. Obviously, you had not been paying any attention. Any kind of honest discussion with her is impossible. She despises me. She can't stand to be in the same room that I'm in -- several times we'd be somewhere (at a big dance with over 200 people) and one person would show up whom she had decided that she couldn't stand and she'd immediately insist on leaving; that's the kind of person she is. One time, that I know of, I showed up at a crowded venue she happened to be at -- I never saw her, but she did see me -- and, a mutual acquaintance told me, she was furious that I would dare to be there. You also obviously missed the scene where I did ask her for an explanation and she marched around the room head thrown back in gleeful malicious laughter glorying in the pain that she was causing. Or when I had been invited to the house for our son's graduation from police academy and I tried to offer a simple polite common-courtesy thank-you for letting me be there and she not only refused to hear it, let alone accept it, but also made some kind of odd hand gesture that seemed to be a cross between flipping me off and bidding me to get the hell out of there as fast as possible. Or when she called me because she needed the admin password for the PC (even though I had made sure to give it to her before I left) and as I was trying to spell it for her she launched into some kind of sick mind game of deliberately misspelling it (eg, I'd give her an "s" and she'd insist is was a "v"). Now, please explain to me how you could possibly imagine that she would even begin to allow me to "sit down with [her] and explain [my] plight truthfully and ask her for the explanation." As I had said (and you obviously also did not notice), she would have to undergo a drastic transformation before such an event could possibly occur. Should she ever undergo such a transformation, I will be ready to discuss it with her. But I'm not going to hold my breath waiting for it.