Discussion in 'Tango Argentino' started by Gssh, Mar 25, 2013.
Yeah, at some places I have to sit away from my wife, otherwise people won't ask her to dance.
they are scared of you
My husband and I are no longer together, but when we were, we would have to split up at the dance so people would ask me.
Especially when they are assessing themselves.
People also often have very different opinions on whether they are "experienced" or "the better dancers"
(this is not aimed at you DC)
I stopped having an opinion about that, since such opinions are usually wrong.
Just because I'm a 275 pound black guy who mostly snarls at people?
Drat those unwritten rules of respect in social situations. People seem to follow them even when they aren't in Buenos Aires.
In my case it had nothing to do with respect. My wife could not get any dances even if we sat separately and no one ever asked me permission to dance with her either (either verbally or by cabeceo-ing me). If my wife felt it had been due to respect, I doubt she would've quit in disgust°.
°No, it's not an invitation to subtly imply anything bad about my wife in a subsequent post, jan.
With a beard...
And a hat...
yeah... you're a scary dude
Couldn't say if it applies to your case, but I for one am unlikely to dance with someone who appears to have a preferred dance partner. So if for example a husband and wife dance a lot (relatively) of dances together, I'll leave them to it, regardless of where they're sitting. It could just be me that does this.
I would say that a couple sitting apart from each other is an invitation, especially for the woman.
It's also possible that the reason a person isn't asked to dance is because they can't do it well enough, though I'm not saying that this is the case here.
This reminds me of an American woman who has lived in Buenos Aires for the last two years with an Argentine. They arrive at the milongas together, but sit separately. It's no secret they are "together." They dance enough tandas to make it obvious. She hardly dances, but then she's not looking around for invitations. He is lining up the next tanda while dancing with her by flirting with women on the floor. He dances constantly. If they were following tradition of most couples, they would sit together at the milongas and dance only with each other. She says she doesn't mind seeing him dancing with other women while she sits. He asks other men to dance with her.
Without knowing what the music for the next tanda will be?
Shut it Zoops. Until you've tried one of my template mats you have no right to express such sentiments.
I heard DChester's tango nickname is El Excavadora
To get asked I have to sit away from my girlfriend, too.
What´s the difference between El Excavadora and El Excavator?
Yes. He doesn't care. He has danced tango for only a few years. I thought he was her hired taxi dancer for a long time.
To get asked? Don't you do some of the inviting?
If it helps, I only wear a hat at theme milongas.
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