1)Truly shocking behavior. Did your friend seem embarrassed by her or oblivious? 2) One way in which I can be what some would regard as a tad rude is that when two leaders are talking a lot rather than dancing--and I know them--and they have been off the floor for a while--I will eventually go ahead and get the attention of one of the leaders…he says "excuse me" to the other guy and we go dance. It is a dance event after all. They then resume their conversation afterwards. In other words, I think you can go ahead and ask your friend to dance even if the other woman is talking to her. Most followers are used to piecemeal conversations and I have certainly never taken offense when 3)I'm sure part of the bad behavior of the follower was discomfort with the situation and her dancing. Not saying that that excuses the behavior, but there is a very slight possibility that she will reform in, oh, a year or so. I have to admit probably not though.