Yes problem is when you go to these socials etc you are expected to do stuff like dancing with everyone who ask. Sometimes I just want to meet up and chat with friends while watching and enjoying the venue. Sometimes I want to just dance with DP, sometimes I don't want to dance at all, sometimes I want to dance with a couple of friends beginners or not. But then you are branded that snobbish antisocial comp dancer who doesnt want to dance with beginners. So I stop going. I am doing am-am atm but increasingly curious of doing pro-am. My friend do pro-am and it seems like there can be intense rivalries between students sometimes. Who gets the better choreography, who gets more time, etc.