I agree that it is important to know up front what to expect when these things come up. I've also found that sometimes, even when that policy is made clear up front and pros are trying to make everything fair, conflict still arises for other reasons. I am lucky that I don't have to complete - mostly - for scholarships yet, but I also know that could change at any time. Unfortunately, I don't think that being male or female makes much of a difference. I've seen plenty of conflict among male students over their female pro - even when they are in different age categories or levels. We're all human, we're in a competitive field, and as pro/am students we are all sharing our pro in a hobby/sport/art that is designed for two people. That said, all we can do is do our best to mitigate the potential for conflict, stay as focused as possible on our own goals, and hope our pros stay professional and fair. I also like Fasc's suggestion to put yourself in your pro's shoes - that keeps me in check in SO many things!