And may I add that I don't want to come off as a constant whiner, though it does feel good to vent on here . There are some wonderful leaders out there and I want to say thanks to those who dance with me. I know a couple of them who fall in that Patient Mentor category and then some. One of them, especially, is such a joy. I met him at a milonga last month. His lead felt absolutely effortless and I was able to follow nearly everything. He had great musicality too, and really worked those pauses. And he kept complimenting me and saying how much he enjoyed dancing with me. I believed him because he didn't just do one "charity dance" with me, he asked me many times. What a delight! I hope I see him at the next milonga this weekend.