Yup. It's pretty easy to tell who will be on the receiving end of the "lessons." That's one reason I love watching my teacher dance with beginners. He's so...there...with them, and seems to do a pretty good job of enjoying things (or at least faking it). There's one girl, the daughter of another student, who always comes to milongas with her mom. She's never taken a lesson, but she can follow a basic tango or vals with him. He's just very patient with her, and leads her very clearly, with very simple things. She's always beaming at the end of a dance with him, and it's neat to see the enjoyment on his face, too. Whenever I can, if he's asked her to dance, I'll just sit and watch because it's so enjoyable to see the happiness on both of their faces. That's a gentleman. But, but, but! Some of us love dancing with newbies. It's such a rush to feel them relax and see them smile. Yeah, I'm ready to do more, but so what? So long as I'm not getting hurt or leered at or felt up or something else icky, it's all good. (I suppose the answer is to ask some of them myself. Still working to get over that hurdle.) Yah, so true. I'm waiting patiently for my "break" into that tier. *shrug* It'll happen eventually. And, in the meantime, I keep getting better. I tell myself that the longer it takes to get that break, the better I'll be at the time, and the higher the chances of it being more than just a one-off dance. But, yeah, it kind of sucks that sometimes it takes a good leader to show off a follower in such a way that other good leaders will notice. Oh well, 'tis the way the world works. All in good time.