Thanks for all the feedback that everyone has provided. Some has been helpful. Some has just been flames, but that is the nature of forums. What I wrote yesterday got misunderstood by some. In an effort to continue to learn more and resolve my issue, I reached out to another well known studio that is not in the same area where we live. I had a brief talk with the owner of the studio last week and spoke with him again briefly this week to setup a lesson time. I met with two instructors, husband and wife, that between them have been instructing for 35 years and themselves have been competing together and with others for a very long time. I discussed with them my issue, what I was trying to get through. There response was that my issue is not uncommon. They spoke of 3 similar situations they have dealt with this year - one where she had been working on a rumba routine with a guy and the significant other had major issues with aspects of the routine; and he spoke of two issues this year where he had been working on tango and quickstep routines with two women and their significant others had issues with the routines. In all three cases they worked with the student to make some changes to the routine or help the significant other get comfortable with some aspects. After some discussion about me and what I am uncomfortable with, they did 3 QuickStep routines for me. The first they did what he called a competition style, there was significant contact in form, but there was little to no sexual connotation to the routine - it was just like what I would look at on YouTube of QuickStep professional competitions. The second they did was more casual or social - she termed it as graceful - there was little to no hip to hip contact or legs intertwined, no deep dips, etc... but they did end with a dip. The third was a performance piece that was indeed very provocative and that is how she termed it. It was very intertwined, with lots of sexual connotation, etc... They had asked me to think of her as my wife as they did them and asked me to comment on how I felt. I was a little uncomfortable with the contact in the Competition style - but it wasn't bad. In the 2nd routine, I had no concerns at all and I found it absolutely beautiful. In the 3rd routine - yes the provocative one, I wanted to crawl out of my skin. It was a cool dance piece, but I am not at all comfortable with my wife of over 20 years being in that level of contact with another man. I have done a lot of soul searching on this. I am not thinking my wife is doing anything wrong, I have no issue with the instructor. In fact they were dancing together at a recent dance party we were at. I am just finding it very difficult to accept/understand/cope with it. So the routine that our local instructor has been developing with my wife is very much the provocative showpiece style. There are some pieces of it that are really cool and that I am OK with. Then there are chunks of what I saw that I don't see myself ever getting comfortable with. My wife and I have a very transparent relationship. We openly share all of our thoughts. I have been discussing all of this with her over the past few weeks. I shared the above with her last night. Understandably my wife is not happy with some of this, just as I am not happy with some of this. The dancing that we are doing is for fun. It is not for competition. The instructors I met with yesterday stated that in exactly the same type of situations they have worked to alter the routines to so that everyone is happy - everyone is having fun. These past few weeks have been difficult for my wife and I regarding this. Some of the feedback I have gotten from this forum has been very helpful. Following our discussion last night, my wife is going to think about how to proceed, how to talk about the routine with the instructor, etc... We will see where it goes from here. I am looking forward to supporting my wife as she works to put on a great routine later this fall and I have recently agreed to participate in a routine as well - one with my wife and potentially another.