General Dance Discussion > Went on a date with someone from dance, I need some advice

Discussion in 'General Dance Discussion' started by Backstreet, Jun 18, 2007.

  1. spectator

    spectator Member

    Actually my real dad is Fabio.
  2. Peaches

    Peaches Well-Known Member

    yeah, that's it.
  3. dancin/dj

    dancin/dj Member

    would you date someone 10 years younger than fabio?
  4. spectator

    spectator Member

    it ain't about the numbers...

    it's all about the looks...
  5. dancin/dj

    dancin/dj Member

    ok i send you my picture
  6. spectator

    spectator Member

    Another addition to the rogues' gallery...
  7. meow

    meow New Member

    Well everyone, Backstreet hasn't filled us in yet. I wonder if the old saying 'no news is good news' is applicable? For his sake, I hope he is :D.
  8. Joe

    Joe Well-Known Member

    You know, I've always wondered how a guy who was clearly balding could have such flowing locks...
  9. samina

    samina Well-Known Member

    what the... you're serious, here? crikey...
  10. samina

    samina Well-Known Member

    :snort: rofl...
  11. samina

    samina Well-Known Member

    you agree with quix's generalization? hmmm...
  12. quixotedlm

    quixotedlm New Member

    semi-serious ;) the point made is nevertheless real - significant age difference = too many insecurities to deal with... cuts both ways, but one edge is sharper than the other.. :rolleyes:
  13. samina

    samina Well-Known Member

    gross generalization, tho... BF and i have significant age difference & no such insecurities...
  14. quixotedlm

    quixotedlm New Member

    you are the proverbial exception that proves the rule? ;)
  15. reb

    reb Active Member

    same here:D
  16. samina

    samina Well-Known Member

    possibly. wouldn't be the first time... lol
  17. samina

    samina Well-Known Member

    that's nice.

    i wonder what the differences are that commonly come up when the woman is older as compared to the more common older-male scenario.

    anyway, whatever challenges i have in my own relationship are not age-related at all... they'd be there no matter our ages.
  18. quixotedlm

    quixotedlm New Member

    when the woman is older - its hard because its against cultural norms. it's not done often, and so women have to deal with bigger insecurities. the norm/stereotype is that men want younger women and go for physical attributes (or at least, the physical side of the 'desirability' is a 'must-have', besides other things). so when the man is much younger than the women, the insecurity/fear is that he will 'stray' away when age catches up with the woman while the man is yet to face the effects of age...

    for those for whom children is important, the man will be forced to be a dad sooner than he might want to, because the woman might not be able to conceive easily beyond a certain age.

    this is in addition to the other concerns that already exist with large age differences either way...

    so what i'm curious to hear about are folks who are in a relationship with a large age difference, where the effects of aging are already apparent in one partner while the other is still in the 'youthful' mode - and how this is working out for you...
  19. samina

    samina Well-Known Member

    yes, i understand. of course, if you perceive her as wildly hot and she knows that, she's not gonna feel insecure and you're gonna strive to do everything possible to keep her... so the reverse of the above scenario would be true. :cool:

    or the guy could want to be a dad sooner & the older woman not interested because she's BTDT...

    fwiw, there is no moment where i feel less youthful than my BF, and in fact i often have more energy to spare than he does... lol
  20. elisedance

    elisedance New Member

    I think this is true - unless you really love. In my opinion, real 'love' is much rarer than people think. I'm not talking about falling in love - that is pretty common and people stay together who have fallen in love for whole lifetimes. But it is not real love and few experience this. Love really is fully committing. It asks no questions and expects nothing in return. You may know of two people who love - they do not argue, they are always looking out for each others needs and futures, they accept - even adore - each others foibles and mistakes. They are only truly happy in each other's company and they really do not need anyone elses. By the way, probably only those who love or have had love will really understand what I write.

    Want a litmust test? In a relationship that is more than 5 years old (to dull the 'in love' start) ask yourself: what would happen if your partner was grossly incapacitated - I mean to the point of debilitation or loss of their mind? If your immediate sensation is deep sadness but a resolve to find a new partner and start again - you probably do not love. If, however, your reaction would be to care for that person as long as necessary regardless or 'I would die' then you probably do. A friend came up with a somewhat different test: what if your partner decided to change sex? Would you stay with them?

    Thus, with that intro, the notion that an age difference would cause extra problems for two people that love is absurd and what it indicates to me is that you have not really been there.

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