Why Do Dancers Smoke?

No. She demonstrated that she could, 15 years ago, when life was relatively calm and she didn't have a kid inexplicably at death's doorstep. (Her son is still suffering from the brain injury and the doctors still don't know why he got sick in the first place.) Right now, I accept that she can't quit. She's tried.

It's rude not to stand on the sidelines while people slowly poison themselves (and in the case of smoking, also slowly poison people with whom they frequently interact).

Well, you're right, it's rude. Er, why?

Is this a serious question?

Actually, yes. Caring and trying to help == rude; not caring and standing on the sideline == not-rude.

Well, maybe it's not a question for this thread. But, if I step back from day-to-day life and frame things like that, the world seems screwy to me.

I don't think that's a question for this thread. And you're right. Life can be screwy, sometimes.

Because it's not nice. And it's not helpful.
But if you equate "telling somebody something they already know so that you get a chance to show them how superior of a human being you are" as polite conversation, knock yourself out.

it's probly more productive to give a context-relevant reason for the person to quit. for example: "i don't like dancing with you because your hands & breath smell like smoke. sorry." personally speaking, that disgusts me.

IMHO, it's far ruder to show up to a dance event reeking than to mention someone's smoking to them. as for their health choices... not my bizness. i care enough to allow them the freedom of their own choices, rather than impose mine on them.

This. It respects their choices and mine.

Though I have never smoked, my parents did, and I can respect the addiction issue. However, please just keep it far the heck away from me. Entering a building with smokers huddled at the entrance, or walking down a sidewalk downwind of someone with a lit butt, or even driving behind or next to a car with a smoker in it AFFECTS ME. I can only hold my breath for so long. And don't get me started on the cigarette butts I see littered on the ground and tossed out of car windows. How is that OK?!? I don't want to get racist or political, but how is it that with cigarettes around $7 a pack now I think, that I see people in the poorest neighborhoods lighting up. And they all have fancy cell phones better than mine.

re: dancers, I admit it. I remember watching a very talented Pro couple perform a showcase, and then later saw them both outside smoking butts. I was disappointed.

Which is it that disgusts you--giving the person that reason, or that person smelling like @$$?

doesn't disgust me to give the reason. it's the cloud of smoke like eau de ash tray, and the careless imposition of it, that offends.

I am borrowing a dress for an upcoming event and it smells like smoke. It is a smooth gown, base color is white with some other colors in the skirt. No expensive stoning on it Any suggestions for how to get the smell out of it? Can I Febreze it, or should I take it to a drycleaner, or something else? I'm only using it for two heats, so no need for extreme measures, but thought I'd ask.

I searched for other threads on this but did not find any. Please provide link if this topic has already been discussed in a prior thread.

Thanks fasc, I will give the Febreze a try this weekend. The dress is owned by a friend of mine who is no longer in the ballroom world, so I don't know how well cared-for it will be once I return it. As it is, there are a couple sewing repairs needed before I actually wear it (bra cup needs to be re-attached on one side and one of the finger loops needs to be sewn back in). Of course the Girl Scout rule is to leave the place (or thing) better-looking than you found it.... but if I were renting or borrowing from someone still in the biz I would ask about cleaning preferences.

My teacher smokes & I wish he would stop. He's healthy but I worry that it's really bad for him.. But he's told me it's really his only bad habit. Most of the time, I don't mind the smell, if its faint, I actually like it. But once he smoked right before we met & smelled terrible. Next time I'm going to let him know...

Sorry, cognitive dissonance is sad but real here. And he will die from cancer despite the relatively few 'bad habits'... There is no way the score makes up for the foolishness. And we all pay for his health and societal ignorance...

Thanks for information

Smoking is a terrible habit nonetheless however I know some dancers who use what's called Electronic cigarettes which are similar to normal smoking but less harmful.

It's unhealthy to smoke. Quit it before it ruins your career.