To quote my boyfriend, dancing is "gay." I'm also told by male dancers that do indeed know how to twirl a lady AND who are definitely NOT gay...that the "gay" thing is definitely the majority's reasoning for not participating. I have to admit...SOME dancing does require a more "femininesque" approach to make it look good. You might want to try attending a social swing dance or two...there seems to be a lot of male swing dancers. Perhaps, if a friendship is forged...you might easily convince him to cross over. Generally, the swing dancing types enjoy a chance to improve their skills (which can be utilized towards making them look even better on the swing dance floor).