We seem to be drifting into the minefield of "why can't I get 'the girl I want'/'a hot girl'/'any girl'". I plead guilty to contributing. This is a topic that has been beaten to death elsewhere on DF. A word to the wise should be sufficient... To opendoor's point, visible role models are indeed a big factor. In cultures that dance, the boys have plenty of "normal" looking role models. American boys who see swing and salsa dancers also see plenty of relatively normal looking role models. DWTS, even when the men are football players, do not present "normal" looking role models for boys. As I try to imagine ballroom being depicted in movies as a normal activity in which men participate, I actually have trouble picturing it. No problem with salsa, swing, or tango. That's how far we have to go with the depiction of ballroom, to make the average boy consider it.