Newbie, yes I see your situation, I guess, but what has her expectations got to do with yours? Socially u cannot refuse a dance. If you do, yes, it affirms that old saw about being a lady who does not get to dance. However, I attend events where women sit for hours, apparently awaiting an invitation. Then, as they leave, their bitter feelings come out with comments about how they didn't get to dance. In this case, I have zero sympathy for a lady (or a man) who does not attempt to dance at a social.