I can't stand it in group lessons when the instructor does an impossibly long pattern that no guy on the planet Earth could remember. Of course it will contain weird turns, alternate timing, and unconventional moves. Then he/she says: "If you men lead this right, women will have no choice but to do the right thing". There are many things that bother me about that myth. For one thing it puts undue pressure on men who could be newbies. It's also very insulting to experienced men who perhaps can't remember gargantuan pattens. Also, it seems to imply that women are merely autonomic machines. Why isn't this statement equally valid? "If women are given a choice, they will usually screw up". But of course these instructors usually say that: "Errors are always caused by the leader." I think if a successful lead depends on forcing women to do bizarre moves there is something very wrong with the pattern being taught.