yesterday's activities

Discussion in 'Dancers Anonymous' started by fascination, May 10, 2009.

  1. pygmalion

    pygmalion Well-Known Member

    Just for the record, I value the input I've gotten so far on my work situation and I want more. So DO NOT even think about changing the subject permanently. lol.

    But, even though I don't have data about mammograms, I will share this personal story (Hope this goes over better than the breastfeeding story. lol)

    When I was pregnant with DS, I had to switch insurance providers in the middle of the pregnancy because open enrollment took away the insurance company I had been with. So I ended up taking my triple test (Is it still called that?) just outside of the normal testing time frame. I took the test at 18 weeks and the results came back with DS testing high for Down syndrome. My really, really nice doctor told me that, because of the test results and the fact that I was old-ish, I had to have amniocentesis. So I did, even though the results would have been moot. I was going to have my beautiful baby, regardless. It was the worst day of my life. After the test, I wept all the way while I drove myself home. I realized that, by following the doctor's orders and taking the test, I might have been endangering DS. 1% chance of miscarriage. As it turns out, DS was just fine. It was timing that made the test results weird. But I learned, through that experience, to always bring my common sense and judgment, even if doctors are authority figures. They know what they know. I know what I know.
     
  2. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    I think your boss was well intended...but like so many well-intended people, she made a decision without consulting with the involved parties...that was the biggest error...would have been far better had she asked what could be done to reduce your stress...sounds to me like appointed helper doesn't want the role any more than you want her to have it but felt she needed to do the CYA about why she hasn't...I think the three of you get into a room and acknowlege everyone's goodness but call the whole thing off
     
  3. cornutt

    cornutt Well-Known Member

    P, I get the impression from reading your note that neither you nor AC really know what your boss is expecting of you regarding this. Is AC supposed to be putting in a certain number of hours with you on Monday? Conversely, are you being expected to train her or transition the work to her? I suggest asking your boss if the three of you could have 15 minutes together to get expectations straight. Something like: "I need to be able to plan for what's going to happen on Mondays, and AC is uncertain about what her priority should be."
     
  4. pygmalion

    pygmalion Well-Known Member


    You are one smart lady. Yep. That's it. :cool:
     
  5. pygmalion

    pygmalion Well-Known Member


    Yep. that's part of it, too, cornutt. I think that, when I got sick, I had so much responsibility that a few things kicked in. One. OMG, we're not killing her, are we? Two. OMG What if she dies or quits? We need to cover this. And, more charitably. Three. What can we do to help her create a more reasonable work/life balance?


    I don't think a lot of people, including me, were thinking straight back then. I was thinking about how not to die. My managers were thinking about losing me both personally (They really like me and vice versa) and permanently. They were thinking about what in the world they'd do if I wasn't around anymore, for whatever reason. (I handed in my resignation during the stroke episode, but they didn't accept it.)
     
  6. pygmalion

    pygmalion Well-Known Member

    I have been thinking about how to reply to this suggestion, P.

    There are definitely pieces of this I like. As it so happens, when it comes to the project in question, AC and I are not exactly peers. I'm the project lead -- who does the customer site visits, the research, the documentation, sets up the procedures and talk points. I'm the one who does the conference calls with the customer execs. I do the reports. You name it. This communication project is maintenance mode, not brain work.

    So I've decided to meld your and sami's suggestions, meet with CM in the morning, explain that I need to be able to project what resources I'm going to have on this project (which is actually true,) and backwards delegate it to him to resolve the situation.

    This is the nice thing about being a lead but not a manager. *grin*
     
  7. samina

    samina Well-Known Member

    I appreciate your thinking of me, CCM! Thanks for the article. Another on the same subject: http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2012/03/03/experts-say-avoid-mammograms.aspx

    Wouldn't get me near those things. :)
     
  8. Purr

    Purr Well-Known Member

    This is along the lines of what I was going to post, but fascination beat me to it, in a nicer manner than I would have said.
     
  9. j_alexandra

    j_alexandra Well-Known Member

    Yesterday:
    Drop car at body shop and borrow van from ex for the next few days
    To ballet; nobody there!
    Home to email from ballet teacher cancelling class, good to know
    Lesson! in which an observer says nice things to me, always lovely to hear
    Home, shelve more books; there are a lot of books and the room now looks like it has wallpaper rather than empty blue-grey shelves
    Rolfer <swoon>
    To NY for theater; quick Chinese dinner first, then walk across the street to theater -- and the show is not actually where we thought it was; nice usher checks her smartphone and sends us to the correct theater, 5 blocks away; why we put in that much effort, I will never know, b/c this was, hands down, one of the most annoyingly offensive pieces of crap I've ever sat through; it was opening night, so there was much self-congratulation from actors, author, director, etc after the curtain call, and an interesting group of very well (and very expensively) dressed thirtysomethings who were partying before and partied after the show, the peoplewatching was far, far better than the damn play (surely that woman's bracelet was not rhinestones? that was some damn bracelet, and my Ballroom Antennae were vibrating, until I got another look at her wardrobe, and her shoes and... that bracelet was as big as a ballroom bracelet, but those were not Swarovskis)
     
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  10. pygmalion

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  11. pygmalion

    pygmalion Well-Known Member

    Checking in on my little work problemo. I met with CM this morning and explained the situation. You will never believe what he said. At least, I don't.

    "P. Almost anybody could do those customer contacts. Heck. Even I could probably do them. That's not where you bring value. Your value comes in planning and seeing the big picture. Tell you what. From here on in, AC can do them all, except for emergency or escalated situations. You can be her back-up."

    Ha! Looks like AC got herself into a fine pickle this time. Mwahahaha!
     
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  12. cornutt

    cornutt Well-Known Member

    Sounds like the customers will love that... :eek:
     
  13. pygmalion

    pygmalion Well-Known Member


    Good point.

    Believe me when I tell you I'll be checking up on her for a while. That's the beauty of written communication.
     
  14. singndance

    singndance Well-Known Member


    Oh this is rich! I was kind of hoping as I read through your dilemma that something like this would happen. Is that cruel?
     
  15. pygmalion

    pygmalion Well-Known Member

    Yep. It is one of those rare times that justice prevailed, IMO. Is that cruel? Maybe. That's not going to stop me from enjoying the irony, though. ;)
     
  16. ChaChaMama

    ChaChaMama Well-Known Member

    MONDAY:
    8:30--Child to school.
    Me to work.

    9:10--ENG 1101--Oral reports on:
    -Should prisoners work while in prison?
    -Why does the US have such an absurdly high number of people in prison and what can be done about it? [Included some absolutely shocking statistics from Amnesty International.]
    -How should safe sex be taught in schools?
    -Are international adoption laws appropriately strict or too strict?

    10:20--Gender, Literature, Culture. Oral reports on:
    -Gender roles in baby/parenting manuals.
    -Gender and the marketing of toys.
    -Gender in Disney movies.

    Lunch and write up oral reports like a maniac. (I wrote up 9 the night before, but 7 left to go.)
    Get together exam review packets.

    12:40--VICTORIAN LITERATURE.
    Exam review for the whole class period. I have to say I think this is one of the aspects of my job I do reasonably well. (That's not to say everyone does great on my tests, because they are challenging, but they have the tools and info they need.)
    Handed back the comments and grades on the 17 oral reports. Nice to have that task off the list!

    2:15-6--Grade 6 ENG 1101 research papers.

    6ish--Go home! Dinner.

    8:30--5.5 miles on treadmill. It's 80s dance party night on my new treadmill! I watch music videos on YouTube by Salt n Pepa, MC Hammer, Michael Jackson, etc. Pleased to be able to get through 5.5 in 1 hr given that I am clearly out of shape right now. (Have not been jogging much due to competing demands.) Shower.

    11:30--Bed.
     
  17. ChaChaMama

    ChaChaMama Well-Known Member

    TUESDAY:

    Grade 2 ENG 1101 research papers.

    10:10--GENDER, LITERATURE, CULTURE. Oral reports on:
    -The accidental pregnancy rate in the U.S.
    -Gender roles in romantic comedies (x2)
    -Gender roles on reality tv.

    11:30--Faculty meeting.

    1--Grade 2.5 more ENG 1101 research papers.

    3--Pick up Child.

    Read w/Child.

    6:30--Parent Education at Child's school. She gives us grammar, math, and reading comprehension work like what she does at school.

    Some of the math was interesting.

    DRINK DILEMMA

    small drink + small drink + medium drink = $6.00

    large drink = medium drink + medium drink

    small drink + medium drink = 4.50

    I immediately solved for the value of small, medium, and large drinks.

    Then the sheet asked how one got that result. At first I was like "Huh. I don't know how I got it. I just could tell." So I had to think about the steps. And actually, it was pretty easy once I thought it through, but I was unaware of having taken any of these steps mentally.

    We also did this thing called HexClues which was more challenging and which I may explain later if I have extra time.

    Grocery store.

    Home. Put Child to bed.

    Vegged on computer. Thought about potential San Diego trip. Put Self to bed.
     
  18. Purr

    Purr Well-Known Member

    I like your math problem I would set it up like this.

    Let X = small drink
    Let Y = medium drink
    Let Z = large drink

    Substitute variables in equations.

    X + X + Y = 6, or 2X + y = 6
    Z = Y + Y, or Z = 2Y
    X + Y = 4.5

    Iisolate Y in last equation, Y = 4.5 - x
    Subtitute for Y in first equation, 2X + 4.5 - X = 6
    Reduce to X + 4.5 = 6
    Solve for X, X = 6 - 4.5, or 1.5

    Solve for Y using first equation, 1.5+1.5 + Y = 6
    Reduce to 3 + Y = 6, or Y = 6 - 3, or Y = 3

    Solve for Z using second equation
    Z = 2 * 3, or Z = 6

    X = $1.5
    Y = $3.0
    Z = $6.0
     
  19. 3wishes

    3wishes Well-Known Member

    Browse internet....for last cyber deals.
    Head out to gym, decide to walk fast - 3 miles regardless of how much time it takes me.
    Call step-dad to check on him, he's in the down and out mind-set mode...the "just put me in a home" mode...arrgghh.
    Discuss situation with DH regarding Step-Dad. yet again. sigh. (this is not the first parent we've been through this with)
    Call from DD, opportunity for her to work part time at school as teacher for special ed...school finds she is overqualified for position - but still wants her - she accepts to work on her days off from Target - color us very happy...for her.
    Call from DD again, discussing this. She misses teaching, this could be a foot in the door in Texas.
    All 3 Dear Grandkids...scream into the phone....WHEN ARE YOU COMING!!! I love being missed and getting run over with huge hugs when we get there.
    Make promise to bring our beach cruiser bikes so we can ride bikes together as a massive family in Round Rock TX.
    Head out to dance coaching, scared to death, it's been a long long time as to full out dancing figures and such.
    I realize afterwards how much better it is to take lessons during the day without the worklife interfering, I could get really use to this!
    Homeward. Go through 986 pictures on DVD - from recent road trip. There are some magnificent pics of the countryside on the disks. Amazing.
    Call from camera shop...are you coming back to photo classes? we miss you..saw your photos when we were transferring them to disks....ohhh I sooo feel the urge to dive into photography again...hmm.hmmm.hmmmm. DH laughs,,,,he remembers so well...I've always had a camera in my hand since Jr. High.
    Settle in for the evening after doing paperwork.
    Nice.
     
  20. 3wishes

    3wishes Well-Known Member

    Browse internet....for last cyber deals.
    Head out to gym, decide to walk fast - 3 miles regardless of how much time it takes me.
    Call step-dad to check on him, he's in the down and out mind-set mode...the "just put me in a home" mode...arrgghh.
    Discuss situation with DH regarding Step-Dad. yet again. sigh. (this is not the first parent we've been through this with)
    Call from DD, opportunity for her to work part time at school as teacher for special ed...school finds she is overqualified for position - but still wants her - she accepts to work on her days off from Target - color us very happy...for her.
    Call from DD again, discussing this. She misses teaching, this could be a foot in the door in Texas.
    All 3 Dear Grandkids...scream into the phone....WHEN ARE YOU COMING!!! I love being missed and getting run over with huge hugs when we get there.
    Make promise to bring our beach cruiser bikes so we can ride bikes together as a massive family in Round Rock TX.
    Head out to dance coaching, scared to death, it's been a long long time as to full out dancing figures and such.
    I realize afterwards how much better it is to take lessons during the day without the worklife interfering, I could get really use to this!
    Homeward. Go through 986 pictures on DVD - from recent road trip. There are some magnificent pics of the countryside on the disks. Amazing.
    Call from camera shop...are you coming back to photo classes? we miss you..saw your photos when we were transferring them to disks....ohhh I sooo feel the urge to dive into photography again...hmm.hmmm.hmmmm. DH laughs,,,,he remembers so well...I've always had a camera in my hand since Jr. High.
    Settle in for the evening after doing paperwork.
    Nice.
     

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