Oh yeah and I left out The Most Annoying Conversation Ever. With Mom of course. Topic: You NEED a man in your life. Her: Don't yell at me when I say this** but you NEED a man in your life. (emphasis hers, not mine) Me: *calmly* No I don't. Her: See? There you go yelling already. Me: I'm not yelling. I'm calmly disagreeing. Her: You need a man in your life. Me: No I don't. A man in my life would certainly be nice, but men bring hassle along with all the good stuff. (I give multiple good examples.) Besides, I think too many people, men and women, get themselves into heaps of trouble by telling themselves they NEED an SO. So they settle for any old SO. If people just ... Her:*interrupting* You need a man in your life. And so on for several minutes. I chalk it up to the fact that she's concerned about me and, back when it looked like beau and I might go permanent, she was relieved that she wouldn't "have to" worry about me as much. That and the fact that she's 81 and, in her generation, most women genuinely believed they needed men. That and the fact that my Dad, while decidedly imperfect, is a very good man, so it never occurs to her that having a man may not necessarily be better than being alone. If she knew what I know, she might not be convinced. Besides, beau and I decided to slow things down and reassess, not part ways permanently. Neither one of us is a teenager. Seriously. What is the rush? If it was meant to be, it will. Waiting a little while won't do any harm. Rushing things very well might. Anyway. I say all this to say that mothers everywhere, including my own, exercise their right to selective hearing loss at will. Hers really kicked it into high gear today. *sigh* ** When Mom says this, I know she's getting ready to say something that's going to make me want to start yelling immediately.