yesterday's activities

Discussion in 'Dancers Anonymous' started by fascination, May 10, 2009.

  1. 3wishes

    3wishes Well-Known Member

    A bunch, here goes.
    Drove through Salinas, Calif to Redding. Redding to Eugene Oregon. Rainy, gloomy until hitting Eugene, GOREGOUS sunshine.
    Pull into DD#2 driveway, and 3 kid-let faces are staring out her living room window. It's been years (don't go there, don't ask).
    While pulling into driveway, her DH pulls in from work.
    Huge Hard Hugs, all the way around. Gifts for everyone - Mother's Day and GD#1 Birthday - covered!
    Smiles and conversations at 90 miles an hour - as everyone catches up with each other, dragged by kid-lets throughout house,,,boys are now "over it" and head to park next-door for some football.
    Our hotel is across from University of Oregon, and it has the weirdest sloped floors,,,not a little sloped...ALOT.
    DH and I start laughing...seriously? every room....the floor is at a definate angle...decided hotel must be on flood plain.
    DD has next day mapped out.
    We head to Florence Oregon, very pretty small beach town, reminds me of growing up with my parents.
    Sand dunes, fishing boats, GD#1 is walking/running so fast with her long legs at all of 12 years old. Soon to be 13.
    DD is dead set on sending us home with a U of O duck shirt for DS,,,,as they text back and forth teasing each other.
    Head to casino, very nice drive. Really, I forgot how great the coastal drive is here.
    Homeward, arts and crafts and painting rocks.
    Next - Powell Book Store in the Pearl District of Portland. GD leaps for joy, her nose is always in a "real" book, DH and GD eyes light up...when entering the book store,,,,she literally RUNS up the flights of stairs to start at the top room.
    lol, baskets and baskets of books later - 4hours worth...and multiple rooms, creaking floors, lunch in the coffee shop, we start our way back to Eugene.
    DD takes us to VooDoo Donuts,,,hysterical. And the only place I know of that gives away a bucket of "day" old donuts at the end of the oodles of buckets. Quite a fun walk through downtown.
    DD gives us the grand tour of buildings, where she works, etc etc. GD has nose in book until we hit the donut shop...
    Dinner is Italian and we have a rightous laughter hour with the waiter....he must not have anything to do and he sits with us. Ok, this is comical now.
    DD shows me all the makings for 30, yes 30, pre-teens that will invade her home on Saturday for the major 13th birthday party. Where has the time gone?
    Laundry, and very bad news arrives for DH over the phone. We cut our visit short by 2 days, and head out Friday morning for home.
    DH is still sick and I can hear his lungs, but we drive 950 miles in one day, straight shot down I-5 south to get home 16 hours later. Seriously? CalTrans shuts down the I-5 Grapevine to one lane at night? for miles....while working on a 50 yard wonder I hate driving the pass.
    Unpack, put everything away, nighty night at midnight cause Saturday is going to be a really really long sad day.
  2. raindance

    raindance Well-Known Member

    Sorry to hear that, 3wishes. Thinking of you and your family.
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  3. 3wishes

    3wishes Well-Known Member

    Yesterday, attend funeral (I note to self, how odd, that this is the day my own mother passed in 2004).
    Go to home where we run into our very first "social circle of newly marrieds" from our very young days.
    Spend time helping out. Pastor sits next to me in front lawn chairs, we talk for the longest time.
    DS and employees of ours also come, attend, help out. thank you...prayer...that they all jumped in to help without being told or asked.
    Eyeball DH who is still unable to breath and listen to his lungs squeeze air in and out. Week 3.
    Take DH home, inform him, he's going to hospital and I'm taking him in the morning. He's exhausted and I know he needs to get his wits about him before yet another unplanned thing happens or I take him in.
    DD#2 Facebooks me alot of pics of Texas grandkids...they grow like weeds...lately.
    Neighbors come over, hang out, quietly chat,,,express concern over DH's breathing. Yep, I know, week 3,,,,
    Go to sleep when everyone leaves, early afternoon.
    Wake up early evening, check on DH, light supper, look up urgent care centers vs emergency room.
    DH sleeps sitting up, yet again, and I'm reminded of an old saying "you can always tell a Norwegian, you just can't tell them much" lol.
    Put DH into recliner so he can breath easier, go to computer, look up marks from comp,,,elated...secretly.
    Close down the house, enjoy the night sky stars, and embrace the quiet.
  4. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    hoping he gets well soon...hug
  5. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    fri--teach bike and bench to a full house...feel quite proud of self for the creation of this to indy for lessons 9-12 of the week...this, combined with 6 other hours of fitness, bed bug trauma and a food borne illness, and let us just say that I was not, I think having a comp scheduled immediately ruins my capacity to dance and we are going to have to talk about bed around nine

    sat ...son arrives home for mother's day weekend...we make tacos we go to sports authority for "stuff"...we play "big bang theory" game....
  6. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    doing today now as I do not foresee getting up off the couch til bedtime....

    wake at 9:30...glorious...have coffee...see beautiful azaleas from son and also some echinacea and some verbena ....very wonderful...dtr is at school but she made me a scarf and some homemade glycerin soaps...and dh did the dishes (my favorite gift)...I look at possible entries for three comps this summer and I order some new shoes...also do some laundry and tan...we thought we might do some gardening and weather treating of deck and furniture but it was too cold..attempt a brief practice but body isn't feeling it....continue taco, it has been a quiet day, but that was really more of what I needed than what I had planned
  7. 3wishes

    3wishes Well-Known Member

    So today is now yesterday and quite the blur and since "today" is going to be longer than most days, driving up the hill, taking step dad to all his pre-op appointments and being told, yet once again sigh, how I "should do things" and he just doesn't understand me...etc etc....give me strength.
    Motored around house this morning, putting stuff from trip away, picking up,
    Watched DH asleep in his chair, sitting up most of the night. My inner self is telling this is really not good "you know it's not good...just listen to him".
    Wake DH up at 8:30, tell him urgent care opens at 9a.m. A white lie...I take him to Emergency Room at hospital down the street from us,,,explaining, "hey they have the x-ray machines and urgent care doesn't" otherwise he would not go.
    Drop DH off at entrance, tell him to go to window and check in while I park the car.
    I know what's going to happen. and it does
    DH walks slowly up to window, says "I can't breath" and it's labored....DH is swarmed by 7 ER staffers. Good thing no one was at ER this morning as in patients waiting to be seen.
    I go to waiting room, with 7 magazines from Oregon about traveling. I know it's going to be quite awhile.
    3 hours go by. Nurse comes to get me. Takes me to DH.
    DH looks at me and says "I really screwed up this time babe, I'm so sorry" ....hold hand, tell him "I already know" kiss his head.
    Heart tests, angiogram, sonagram, x-rays, cat scan-mostly negative results (which this is really good except for).......fluid surrounding the heart...early onset heart failure....he's admitted to ICU. His rhythm is also out of wack.
    Doctor plows him with Lasix, pain meds, and a garden variety of other items and tests.
    Informs me that DH entered ER with a heart rate of close to 200 per minute, about ready to stoke out.
    Go through all the questions, the clothing, the this, the that.
    Place call to DS, who then calls DD#1 and DD#2. Head home to collect items, drop off items, get lunch and head back.
    DS must have broken the land speed record, I was gone a mere 40 minutes,,,and DS is following me into the parking lot of hospital (ok, he lives almost an hour away on a good day with no traffic).
    DS and I take turns in room with DH. Cardiologist enters,,,,goes through questions, answers, proposes what will happen and drug therapy...etc. Must get heart back into rhythm and fluid needs to exit as well.
    DS handles everything for me, including his dad. The ICU nurses are chatting and like DH alot it seems.
    For the first time in months, DH has color in his face...well...that plus lines, stickers, needles, IV's and a nitro patch.
    A sort of human porkipine. DS and I come home...make supper, relax place calls. Watch TV, then receive call from DH to DS...DS goes back to hospital - says dad needs a partner in crime...ahhhhhh, the gruesome twosome.
    Tomorrow will be a better day. It will be, it will be, it will be.

  8. j_alexandra

    j_alexandra Well-Known Member

    It will be. IT WILL BE. <giant hug>
  9. 3wishes

    3wishes Well-Known Member

    DF-ed late last night. After DF-ed posting on DH, Got out bucket, poured in boiling hot water with white vinegar, knifed the kitchen wallpaper in breakfast corner and starting scraping, peeling wallpaper off for kitchen project. It was really late, too much energy to contain, DS watched, stopped through kitchen a few times to offer hints but no help, he knew better, I needed a release from the events of the day with DH. Must say, THAT was good for me, and the original yellow wall to the house is now ready for contractor to skim and make all new again. It was after midnight before I finally fell asleep, mental notes, must call DH's sisters, return call to hospital employee DD#2 who wants to hop a flight and oversee dad in ICU. argghhhhh, these are the calls I dread. breath breath breath.
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  10. 3wishes

    3wishes Well-Known Member

    DS and I wake up at same time. Look at each other, ugh, get ready for another day.
    DS heads to hospital to be with his dad, my DH.
    I head to high desert to take step dad to his pre-op appointments.
    Step dad - "why are you here so early?" me...."your first appt is 10:45 a.m" him..."noooooo, it's 2 p.m I told you it's 2p.m." me...."do you see my date book? it says primary care physician Dr. M......10:45 a.m."....him..."I hate that doctor....lies nothing but lies...I'm not going....we will only go to 2p.m. appt with surgeon"....
    Me, tell my inner self...contain your scream...or you'll drop dead and that will not help anyone.
    We visit, he askes about my DH,,whom he loves like a son.
    I receive multiple phone calls that I cannot answer, knowing it's family and friends about DH, I just can't repeat myself over and over.
    Take step to surgeon appt, I like this guy,,,he's sharp....what a blessing. Surgeon askes,,,where's your chest x-ray, ekg, blood work...etc, I need that before you show up Thursday.
    Step dad - "oh, I didn't know you needed that today, I don't have it""didn't you see your primary care doctor this morning"...
    me? "ok NOW I WANT TO SCREAM"
    So we spend rest of afternoon, running around Apple Valley, building after building, getting all these tests and paperwork done.
    Step dad "I'm sorry, I didn't know...etc etc yada yada" to step dad..."really? I could be in ICU with DH listening to what Cardio Doc has to say instead of running around Apple Valley because you feel your primary lies to you. Never again.
    I reach breaking point with temper, he knows it full well and gets very quiet in car. THANK YOU!
    DS keeps me informed on DH, heart-rate coming down...still on slew of meds to control heart going to attempt weaning DH off of some meds to see what happens.
    Lots of phone calls, still cannot answer phone, tons of people leaving voice mails.
    Head home, drive through "fire" on side of fwy and now I smell like lovely smoke...ain't this grand?
    DS calls, "mom, when are you coming down the hill?" conversation continues.
    DS calls again, "mom, family is arriving in dads room, thought you should know" crap.
    Send DS home to his home, thank him profusly for everything and just being there,,,he really stepped up.
    Head to ICU unit where they are moving DH to a regular room, just outside ICU doors,,,they tell me
    "we don't trust your DH yet to be any further from ICU doors, so we are putting him right here, next to us"
    This is good? This is bad? This is good....right? no? arrgghhhhh.
    DH looks at me, makes some statements as do I to him. The ability of him sitting up on the side of the bed is big.
    They allow him to walk 10 steps back and forth. He's winded but able to do it.
    Nutritionist scheduled, Cardio Doc will return, No exercise for a month, Heart not in normal sinus rhythm,,,might use paddles (ARGGHH), something else going on in chest wall. Lots of tests are negative - big relieve. Fluid surrounding heart - gone, for the most part.
    DH makes a deeply personal promise to me as I move tubes, lines, monitors, over in his bed and crawl in beside him. He will never give up his Frosted Flakes but he will give up all the other crap he eats and get heart healthy.
    hmmmm, do I tell him that DS already took all the items with salt and all the items with sugar that DH loves, out of the house? no? well, maybe not now.
    Thank you, to the DF-ers that sent supportive PM's, friends and family and neighbors as well. He's not out of the woods by a long shot, but his heartrate is back down to the 80's -90's and not topping the 190's-200 range anymore.
    A little sleep, and a call from DS,,,"mom, what happened, your not answerinng your phone and neither is dad..." I send DS a picture of me and his dad, in the hospital bed hugging....DS is relieved.
    and warns me "DO NOT DO THAT DO ME AGAIN!" when did I become the child? and he the parent?
    DH shares with me that he was very touched by the simple act that DS held his hand like he use to when he was little and he vowed to get better and live a healthier life.
    I signed off for the evening with "you have to get better, who else is going to read all those road maps and drive route 66 to find the biggest ball of string?"....
  11. nikkitta

    nikkitta Well-Known Member

    You and DH are in my prayers.
  12. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

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  13. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    mon..teach two classes, drive to indy...should have had more food...latin went well, standard did not...fatigue and stress over impending comp doesn't bode well and overdue conversation should have happened but didn't...I beg off a bit early for only the third or fourth time in 5 years...pour margarita on it with son who is interning in to new hotel where there aren't bed bugs, but hit a curb and blow my tire...fabulous..

    tues...son puts on my spare, get wires crossed with pro over previous night's events and, long story short, I miss my tues. lessons....not home upset, teach spin and it is humid...counsel couples in the evening...home to wine wishing the day, and the one before it, had never happened

    wed...teach two classes, have a meeting, work on volunteer bathroom rehab...teach two more classes...home exhausted...bed soon
  14. 3wishes

    3wishes Well-Known Member

    Gotta love "those" kind of days Fas...makes us appreciate the boring ones!
    Call, throughout the day, "I'm coming home, they are discharging me, papers in hand, can you come to hospital?"
    Ok, this happens a few times yesterday. Finally an R.N. says, late afternoon,
    "Mr. ........... would you please return to the bed, the medication we are giving you, for home, that we've been monitoring, is not working and your heart rate is high again."....I can see his disappointment but I'd rather find out in the room than at home.
    Late last night,,,,bring DH home,
    DH stands outside our home on front lawn, taking it all in. Every bit of our dead end street.
    And he's grateful he still can.
    As am i.
    Small talk, medications talk, doctor talk...late night "healthy" snack.....he takes a really long shower.
    Late night TV...he never does this.
    And fast asleep, up for a while, and back asleep....I note at 3 a.m......he's breathing better than he has in a year.
    Thank You Lord.
  15. j_alexandra

    j_alexandra Well-Known Member

    for the past week, I've been in a fog of concentrating on learning a lot of stuff, some physical, some not, most of which has nothing to do with dancing, but, of course, affects the dancing; so...highlights:
    Theater three times, most of which is pretty dull but one was good
    Lessons change direction, I feel like I'm a beginner again, and I say that in a good way; many, many very deep satisfactions from these lessons, and Teach seems pleased
    Gyro and rolfing sessions are magnificent, and I hope this physical change in me will last, it's extremely rewarding, extremely, did I say extremely?
    Dinner with a buddy, in which we not only set the world to rights but get in a little unexpected flirting with men who decide we're flirtworthy; nice to discover that my mad flirting skilz have not totally rusted
    I have so much on my mind that I actually *vacuum*; this is an infallible indicator of major mental upheaval
    Go to Allentown, PA, where there's a gun show at which my friend Liz is set up; we go to brekkie at a diner and Catch Up-- diners in PA are hit or miss, I've had some memorably bad meals in diners in PA, sometimes including twist-ties, plastic bags, and the Incredible Inedible Flapjack, but that's another story-- Catching Up takes so long, we leave the diner and I actually voluntarily enter the portals of the Allentown gun show so we can continue talking, something I thought would never, ever happen again; meh, life is change, and it turned out: I was not bothered at all, color me pleased with myself
    Home; pick up Blond German Friend, pick up father, go to NY to theater; come home, dinner at local restaurant
    Airport run to pick up buddy from out of town who will be visiting for a week while she takes a class in NYC; she and I have been friends for decades, but seldom see each other, so this is majorleage catch-up time, for both of us
    Have a small but unpleasant incident with a pit bull who decides that I am not his friend; TDNWMH, shall we say; no serious damage, except to my peace of mind, which is taking some hits this week anyway; I discover how much I was upset by this when I go to...
    Lesson, in which I utterly fall apart until Teach gets me to spill the problem and things improve
    Get an email from someone searching for an amateur partner; discuss it with Teach, who offers some startling advice
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  16. SwayWithMe

    SwayWithMe Well-Known Member

    Nice start to the day, warm sunny morning, girls early to school so time for a few laps around the park before 8:30 Conditioning for Dancers. Feel like I'm making progress there lately, especially with aerial silks. Even dude-who-won't-just-shut-up didn't bother me much.

    Email from coach wanting to chat about setting up a more cohesive training plan. Things have been feeling rather haphazard, have been frustrated about it for a while not getting answers I've been looking for, so this is encouraging.

    Take DS to algebra tutoring, he finally "gets" something he's been having trouble with, and even managed to bring up a crappy test score. Time well spent. I'm so over homeschooling, grateful we've found what looks like a good fit for him for next year.

    Text with dance friend about coach's email. He wants to set up a dinner date, but our schedules don't mesh for weeks. Wish he'd come back to the studio.

    Girls are in uncooperative bickering moods after school, drag their brother into it. Not fun. Have to pick up another kid from school on our way to the studio, unreasonably feel like they're all being S L O W on purpose. Slide in about a minute before the kids' class starts. They're being very loud; I feel bad for the people taking privates.

    Communicate with Standard pro I'm going to be starting with soon. Looking forward to that. He said "I'm excited!" which cracks me up.

    Chat with coach is not as productive as I had hoped. Nothing concrete to say, just that I'm not doing everything I should be and my dancing is my responsibility. Well geez, I'm doing everything I'm given, so whose fault is that when I ask and don't get answers? She's going to plan out some specific things for us to work on, and we'll talk about it soon. Feels like a bunch of sunshine and hand-waving. I need to know what I have to DO, and it's totally unfair to criticize the things I don't know if you won't ever get around to teaching them.

    Do my best to turn my stinky attitude around. Home, dinner (DH even made it in time to eat with us, yay!), wrestle kiddos through remaining homework and piano practice and off to bed. Deep breath, play the piano for a bit (Chopin Nocturnes, bliss!), practice while DH drives to the hangar to pick up a piece of aviation electronics I need to ship somewhere for him in the morning. House is a disaster, but I'm past caring.

    Mess around online, see email from a guy on the studio board following up from our meeting on Tues. He (again!) brings up his idea of guaranteed time frames for people to get through bronze, which puts me right back in my stinky mood. If his time frames are reasonable (which they're not) I'm owed a gigantic refund.

    There may have been ice cream. Darn.
  17. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    thurs...teach, work on rehab bathroom project at gym, nap, tan, practice a psalm I have to sing at cathedral on sunday, begin to organize some training materials for the new part of my job, feed animals, do laundry...pretty much sit and try to figure out my dance life....lessons tomorrow I am hoping for a better day...bed soon
  18. j_alexandra

    j_alexandra Well-Known Member


    Lesson, in which things are a bit tough, then improve
    Deal with X
    Shopping, movie, cooking, general fun
  19. j_alexandra

    j_alexandra Well-Known Member


    To NY for another session at Yamuna's studio; this one taught by an extremely strong man with serious ADD problems, which actually suits me just fine, b/c as I ask questions, he answers, and we range all over the place, rather than being slavishly stuck to a syllabus
    Meet out-of-town friend, drive home; I may have finally figured out how to drive in NYC in rush-hour traffic and not go out of my mind, and the hybrid car is *magnificent* at times like this; I think I used a teaspoon of fuel or something like that, hybrids love slow driving
    Home; friend does some business (she's a realtor, can work some parts of her job from anywhere, have smartphone will travel)
    Dinner, delish
    Home, both of us crash into bed and sleep the sleep of the just
  20. 3wishes

    3wishes Well-Known Member

    Up to Victorville, take step dad to Apple Valley for Wrist Release surgery, silent prayer that this works!
    DH, on board figuring out his new routine at home. When to take meds, what to ax in terms of foods, learning to read ingredient labels and limitations on sodium, etc etc etc.
    DH promised me he would not do too much. hmmmm, he better NOT, as I head up the hill thinking about this.
    Surgery goes well, step dad relatively pleased, it's been a long day in yet another waiting room.
    Take him home, settle him in, head down the hill to the other male in my life.
    House is picked up/cleaned brain explodes...I know how he is...he never just does a little bit.
    We chat, DH smiles, assures me that each time he got up to walk he simply made the walk worthwhile and did not overly exert himself at all. ok, I'll buy that this time mister.
    DH laughs more now, smiles more than ever, hugs more, and called into our business informing the employees not to call the house at all unless there is a fire burning down the warehouse. He will call them - in 30 days. BRAVO! oh my!
    DH sits outside in front yard, as I spy on him,,,,neighbors mosy over,,,sit with see hugs being exchanged...
    this is good. really good.
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