For right now, I'm keeping it upbeat and offering to do grocery shopping, walk the dogs, drive him to the hospital if he needs any of this. Apparently he is trying to keep a Positive Mental Attitude so I don't want to go into a mode that sounds like I'm memorializing his impact on my life when he is still hoping to beat this thing. This guy had the office right next door to mine for over a decade. We flew to San Francisco together for a conference, and have done several interview conferences together, going out to every meal together, etc. We've been to parties at each other's houses. Heck, my best friend--who lives in Queens--has been to a party at his house. Not good. On top of that, a 20 year old student of mine--someone who was in my FYS in 2011, and my first year seminar peer mentor in 2012--is being forced to quit her summer job and take Fall 2013 off due to serious health problems. This isn't supposed to happen.