yesterday's activities

Discussion in 'Dancers Anonymous' started by fascination, May 10, 2009.

  1. ChaChaMama

    ChaChaMama Well-Known Member

    -Sent Sister Edible Arrangements basket in hospital.
    -Took Child to dance rehearsal for a musical theater style number.
    -Did various chores such as laundry and groceries.
    -Read Cynthia Enloe's Seriously! Investigating Crashes and Crises as if Women Mattered. [Provocative title, huh? I had to have it.]
    -Wrote in diary.
    -Kept track of breaking situation at work: power went out for half of campus.

    -Work cancelled due to ongoing power problems. Wow. Very unexpected.
    -Did a 9 mile workout on the treadmill.
    -Took Child to dance.
    -Read a lot more Seriously!

    Problems are somewhat better, as more buildings are on generators, but it turns out several buildings are still not open. These include THE LIBRARY and THE GYM. Not great.
    9, 9:20, 9:40--ENG 1101 appts. One person stands me up. Dude...we are compressing a 5 day workweek into 4. You won't get a second chance.
    10:10--Flex session with career services.
    11:30--Department meeting.
    1--Hoped to have some re-scheduled student appts, but people can't do this time slot, HOWEVER, this turns out to be a good thing as I get asked to step in and help with the crisis management. Cancel all remaining flex sessions for the week, as we are running short on rooms with electricity.
    2:30--Student appt.
    And then I handle some details related to the big lecture next week and write a letter of recommendation.

    Home. Dinner.
    Take Child to ballet.
    Finish reading Seriously!

    9, 9:20, 9:40, 10, 10:20, 10:40, 11--Appts for ENG 1101 and FYS. One student says he is totally unprepared, but would like to take my open slot on Friday. Dude. I have no open slots. If I did, I would fill them in. School was closed on Monday. He says that he thought I had a slot because he saw xxxx at one point on the schedule. Yes. That's when I shove some food in my mouth and go teach my upper level class. I manage to be pleasant about this, but I am wondering about the degree of entitlement here. (He also missed his appointment the previous week.)
    Lunch break. Cupcake food truck on the quad!!!!!! Go score some cupcakes. Never say there aren't some good things going on during this crisis.
    12:40--20th C Brit Lit. Rushdie.
    1:45, 2:05, 2:25--ENG 1101 appts. My next door neighbor has three colleagues standing in the door of his office and they are laughing and talking SUPER LOUDLY, which is not too cool given that I am with students. I love my colleagues, but do you need to be roaring with laughter in the middle of my appointments?
    2:52--Race out to pick up Child.
    4--Leave for dance.
    4:30-9--Child's dance marathon.
    I put in 8 miles on treadmill. Shower.

    Start reading Ruth Ozeki's A Tale for the Time Being.
  2. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    wake at internet...curses
    8 teach blast
    9-4; laundry, cat litter cleaning, feed animals, pay bills, set up mammogram, set up car repair, sleep the sleep of the dead, make an early fabulous dinner for dh, make new playlists for spin.....
    5-7 teach spin, teach fusion....exhaust
    8 drop car off to mechanic politics and religion with dh...drink wine...bed soon
  3. nikkitta

    nikkitta Well-Known Member

    CCM - what are these "appointments"? Are they required meetings with your students?
  4. ChaChaMama

    ChaChaMama Well-Known Member

    @nikkitta--They are required meetings. Right now, my ENG 1101 students are working on 8-10 page research papers. Instead of having class, I meet with each one of the students for 20 minutes to talk about his/her draft in progress.

    In the 1-on-1 meetings, I am trouble-shooting the papers and hopefully helping students maximize their learning and their grade. Some of the students really know what they are doing and need only a few suggestions. Others have major problems, e.g., they are just slapping a bunch of information into the essay with no real thesis or argument, their Works Cited include no scholarly sources, they have no ability to understand what people on the other side of the argument and therefore no rebuttal, they aren't citing things in the required format, their Works Cited isn't in alphabetical order, etc.

    So really, when a student misses an appointment or shows up unprepared, he's only hurting himself (or herself, but in this case, himself.) It's not my paper and it's not my grade!
  5. ChaChaMama

    ChaChaMama Well-Known Member

    Guess what? No school again today. But--good news--by the end of today, they think the problem is fixed! Yay!!!

    10:15--Eyebrow waxing.

    Rest of day includes:
    -Reading and responding to two student essay drafts online.
    -Getting big lecture into campus announcements.
    -Reading Ruth Ozeki novel.
    -Helping students with last minute registration issues.
    -Making lemon chicken and potatoes.
    -Grocery shopping and laundry.

    Bad health news--possibly very bad--about father-in-law clouds the day. Husband is very upset and only slept about 4 hours last night because he is worrying so much.
  6. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    am sorry to hear that ccm

    take dh to train b/c I need his car and mine is in shop
    teach spin then YGM...recieve the disturbing news that a second friend this week has lost her husband
    home to field some calls about engaged couples and the upcoming grief group that I am going to be doing
    graze...nap...hustle to get some groceries to the food pantry for a big neighborhood food drive....continue to try to smooth out some ruffled feathers over the many transitions at the gym...pretty spent...anticipating an evening that doesn't involve much movement...and terribly grateful that tomorrow is a day off of work and dh and I have a corporate event that his firm is hosting tomo, which may actually feel like; a the Museum of Science an Industry....which means that tomorrow I will not have to cook, do dishes, or work
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  7. sbrnsmith

    sbrnsmith Well-Known Member

    yesterday- busy intense day at work again. Have not had time to do anything else besides come home, eat and sleep. Next week, plan to complete Christmas shopping.
  8. ChaChaMama

    ChaChaMama Well-Known Member

    Friday: Crazy intense day of appointments because of school cancellations earlier in the week, and then Child had a friend sleep over.

    -8.25 miles on treadmill.
    -Read about 230 pages. Oops. Two different books: Ruth Ozeki's _A Tale for the Time Being_ and Marie Lu's _Champion_, both published in 2013.
    -Did a little grading.
    -Worked on my schedule for next week.
    -Watched "The Living Daylights" with the family. Yes, we're back to our "watch all the James Bond movies" Family Fun Night plan. Eh--Timothy Dalton is not my favorite Bond.
    -Cut out a ton of Boxtops for Education.
  9. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    saturday...sleep til glorious is that?...peacefully putter around on the internet until someone calls at 9, and in my hurry to go see who it is, I launch a full cup of coffee into the air, which <<TRUST ME>> could not have hit more places in the TV room...spend some time being cranky pants and cleaning that...go to grocery with dh....our new empty nest a new reasonable rate with a new hotel in indy because I am finally starting to feel a small bit optimistic that I will recover from my current dance funk and I can't go back to the the"Bed Bug Inn"...two strikes and you are out on that little problem...partcularly when I don't get refunded....pretty moronic given the amount of business I gave them...but fine...

    it is a weird night as I am missing the studio showcase because dh wanted me to attend a Chicago Bar Foundation Charity event sponsored by his evening in which all proceeds go toward providing legal help for those who cannot afford it...dh has been feeling a about my dancing of late, and I thought it important as he is at a new firm....I have not been to this museum in a long time....we frequent other Chicago museums fairly regularly, but not this one....I am glad I went...for a variety of reasons....I think it has been good for me to take a break this year in some of my previous dancing committments including dance has been the 800 pound gorilla in my life for over 8 years now...and I feel very fortunate to have a healthy husband who wants to be with me...and it was fun...the entire place was decorated for Christmas around the World and it was fun to look at and read about the ways in which other countries do or do not celebrate a winter holiday....the other displays at the Museum have been vastly upgraded since the last time I was we walked through the area on cloning and saw the cloned animals there and also went through the physical science area where the kids get to make a "tornado"...there are a few areas that are a bit too graphic for me ...but it really is an awesome Museum and I always feel grateful that we live so close to the city...and, as a cherry on top of the cake, dh won all three of the items he bid on in silent auction...I am grateful that it didn't cost more than what I would normally spend to go to Ohio Star....he won 4 passes to Medina, where the 2012 Ryder cup was held, Architectual tour of the city, and tickets to "wait wait don't tell me" coupled with a gift certificate to eat at "girl and the goat", which is stephanie izzard's restuarant.....anyhow ....a lovely evening, in spite of having to comfort our daughter again about that whole Northwestern football situation
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  10. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    sun....sleep in some a bunch of for bad weather...see a bunch of engaged couples....planning on being useless now til bed time
  11. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    sun....sleep in some a bunch of for bad weather...see a bunch of engaged couples....planning on being useless now til bed time
  12. Zhena

    Zhena Well-Known Member


    Sleep in until after 8 … will need all possible energy for the evening festivities.

    Shower. Print and review lists. Pile things (tablecloths, ribbons, baskets, plastic cups, napkins, plates, pens, utensils, boxes of wine, jugs of iced tea, tea bags, sugar) on dining table, checking them off the list. Load two large ice chests into car, and we’re off.

    First stop: breakfast (no, it was probably brunch) at favorite restaurant. Pick more caloric of usual options …. “eggs Louis” which is eggs benedict with crab and fresh spinach in place of Canadian bacon … super yummy. DH has “San Francisco scramble” which is no longer on the menu, but they’ll make it anyway if you ask.

    Second stop: party rental place. Strangely, they have my customer information but not my order. The order was for 10 pitchers, which they have in stock, so no problem. We wait while they find the pitchers (which turn out to be the fancier version, but they charge us for the plainer version that we thought we had requested, so all is well).

    Third stop: giant warehouse store. DH has decided that our Christmas icicle lights are marginal and we need them for tonight, so he needs to buy replacements. Whatever. We also do the usual weekly stuff since we’re here.

    Fourth stop: grocery store. We’ve purchased most things on the list but we still need milk (for coffee) and ice for tonight, and our usual groceries. At the checkout DH says “and four 20-lb bags of ice.” The clerk says, “so you want 80 pounds of ice?” Well, when you put it that way …. yes, we really do want 80 pounds of ice.

    Home. Leave the ice chests with 80 pounds of ice in the car. Bring in new icicle lights so DH can take them out of the packaging and check them. Go through photo albums and select additional photos for DH to add to slideshow. Re-do about 18 inches of hem of skirt … it came down the last time I wore it. Iron skirt and discover that stitching on waistband is coming out too. Re-stitch waistband and finish ironing. Iron white shirt for DH. DH loads car. We’re ahead of schedule, so take a few minutes to check email and DF.

    Get dressed, but put nice blouse on hanger and wear t-shirt.

    Arrive at destination early and see friend carrying her first load into church hall. Church caretaker is waiting for us, other friend appears with husband and helpers; unload all three vehicles and start setting up. No one has forgotten or missed anything on the lists. Extreme chaos … the four of us (me, DH and two friends) have a general idea what we want to do, but we need to finalize details. Resolve each issue as it comes up … our friends are wonderfully easy to work with. Tables for food, bar setup, dining tables, decorations … all fall into place. DH sets up computer and projector to show photos; mainly of dancing but a few from the hosts’ past. Both bands arrive and start to tune up. Slip off to change shirt.

    But one hour is not really enough time, so the first guests arrive before we’re ready. Guests pitch in and then suddenly it’s all done. More people arrive, potluck food is set on tables. Find a minute to change into dance shoes.

    More people, hugs, band #1 starts background music, more people … and it’s time to start dancing. Band #1 is replaced by band #2 (Hungarian). I announce that the first set will be the Hungarian dance that is traditionally done at the start (of a ball, the dance season, or any important occasion), and the non-Hungarian dancers should start to eat.

    I’ve invited one of my ballroom friends who is interested in different dance styles (waves at friend!) so I grab him for the first dance. It’s actually a group of separate dances from the village of Szeki, and the first few are very easy. I backlead him at first, but he catches on very quickly and pretty soon he’s leading me. He responds quickly to every suggestion (“make a fist and hold the fist under my elbow” (not kidding … this is a really weird hold but it works in context … “in ballroom, you keep your head left, but in this dance you need to keep your head right”). When I point out that I’m not going to try backleading one step, he observes what other leaders are doing and picks it up … swoon. When we switch to the parts that I can’t backlead, I thank my partner and DH steps in to finish the dance with me. That dance cycle lasts over half an hour total, so when it’s done the Hungarian band takes a break and band #1 takes the stage.

    Over the course of the evening from 6 to 11:30, the two bands switched off about 4 times (if I recall correctly). Band #1 played a variety of music (mostly Balkan line dances but also including a surprise set they put together in recognition of the fact that the party was to celebrate the four “Vintage 1953” hosts), The Hungarian band played 6 dances (or dance cycles), each one lasting 15 to 30 minutes (two of the sets had more than one dance).
    I danced with DH for the (second part of) the first cycle and all of the last. One of the other cycles included a “mixer” aspect, and I had different partners for each of the remaining three dances. In other words, if you don’t count the mixer, I had only five (or is it 4 and a half?) partners for the Hungarian part of the evening. (Normally, each dance would be longer, but we didn’t want to bore the non-Hungarian dancers so we asked the band to cut the sets short.) When you accept an invitation to do a Hungarian dance, you’re committed to your partner for a long time, so the etiquette of asking/accepting is slightly different from ballroom etiquette. It’s not unreasonable to check the credentials of an unknown partner before agreeing to a commitment.

    Midway through the evening, we stopped to sing the (Hungarian) birthday song and cut the cakes. We had a decent contingent of “real” Hungarian guests, so the singing was very powerful (and the song is much nicer than the American “Happy Birthday to you”). We projected the lyrics so those who could decipher the Hungarian pronunciation could join in.

    After the last dance, we joined again in singing a Hungarian “going home” song, traditionally sung at the end of the evening. We didn’t have the lyrics projected this time, and I couldn’t remember all the words, but the Hungarian contingent sang it beautifully. More hugs as people leave.

    As we were cleaning up, the church caretaker commented on the energy of our guests who continued dancing to the last possible moment. Our friends of vintage 1953 (and others) show the power of dance to keep people young.

    I’m still floating on the energy from the party. It was a wonderful way to celebrate our friendship, dancing, and our dance community!
  13. ChaChaMama

    ChaChaMama Well-Known Member

    @Zhena--That sounds so nice! The college where I work has a branch campus in Hungary; I think it would be very cool if we here on the U.S. campus could see an exhibition of Hungarian folk dances. Maybe someday!

    Sunday: Featured event of the day is the bris for my nephew. I was a little worried about how I would hold up at this event, but I looked away so I didn't have to see anything. (And the kids were sent into another room.) I did a reading (in English) at the ceremony. My husband, who is not Jewish, found the whole thing fascinating and meaningful. My Mom, who has COPD, started to experience shortness of breath after standing for too long during the ceremony and had to sit down. (And unlike me, she is not wimpy about blood; this really was shortness of breath.) That was a little frightening. On a more positive note, I got some good snuggle time with my little man before the ceremony.

    After the party, I took Child to a scrapbooking event at one of her BFF's houses.

    I also e-mail all my classes with reminders for this week, work out some final details (I hope!) for tonight's big lecture, make a 2nd batch of lemon chicken and potatoes to freeze, and finish reading Ruth Ozeki's A Tale for the Time Being, which I could barely put down.

    Have a new thing to add to my list of things to worry about, re: parents. Sigh.

    Also got an interesting piece of dance gossip! Can't share in accordance with DF rules, though! ;)

    Big day ahead with this big lecture. Wish me luck!
  14. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    take dh to train before at Y 7:30 - 11:30....home to feed animals and some prep work for upcoming Grief Group, make a few calls, nap, to mechanic to pay for my car repairs...pick dh up at train...head to funeral visitation of a dear man...pick up our home to find that ambulances, squad cars, etc .....are at our neighbors....long day
  15. sbrnsmith

    sbrnsmith Well-Known Member

    Yesterday got a lot of Christmas shopping done. Today dance class which was awesome especially after a week of work. Evening- relax with glass of wine, cook dinner and watch my favorite trashy tv reality shows
  16. tancos

    tancos Active Member

    I too was at this party and it was great. The Hungarians have a particularly lovely birthday song, originally from the village of Szek in Transylvania. Here is the English translation:

    Joyfully live many birthdays.
    May it be easy to count your days.
    May the sky's dew refresh your heart.
    May a flood of blessings cover your house.

    May you receive every happiness
    as long as you live.
    Moreover, may no troubles befriend you.
    May all the flowers of your life blossom.
    May your heart never suffer any open wound.
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  17. ChaChaMama

    ChaChaMama Well-Known Member

    Some AM nonsense with Child, then get her off to school.

    9:10--ENG 1101. Discussion of best practices for oral presentations.

    10:20, 10:40, 11, 11:20--Appointments.

    Lunch and prep.

    12:40--20th C Brit Lit. Monica Ali's Brick Lane.

    Leave campus and pick up guest speaker.

    Let guest speaker have some downtime.

    Pick guest speaker back up and take her for a tech check.

    6--Reception at President's house.
    It was a very interesting talk and a definite success. Not a full house, but a good sized audience, and people asked good questions during the Q+A.

    9--Take speaker out to dinner, then back to her hotel.

    11--Home and collapse!
  18. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    mammogram...dh calls to check up...interesting...because I have already had 3 benign tumors removed and still have one not removed in the past 2 decades... I am a bit taken aback by this sudden concern...think it may havesomething to do with all the funerals we are attending these days...still waiting for bloodwork which I hope will contain some answers as to why I work so hard to no some shopping because the holidays are coming...ready or not....teach energy...take two low dose and ponder being old....cook for dh who eats and promptly falls asleep on my lap...and that is calm about how much I am not missing OSB
  19. Purr

    Purr Well-Known Member

    Yesterday I walked down to the Hyatt during my lunch to look at the vendor booths at OSB. I tried out a practice dress from one of the vendors. It fit me ok, but I wasn't loving the style, so I passed. The vendor suggested an alternative style with potential, but time was short and I didn't try it on. I talked to a pro/am student getting ready for rhythm, the student of a local pro I know. She gave me a promising lead on dress rentals for future events.

    I didn't stay long. Being there wasn't very much fun. I wasn't sad I'm not dancing - I haven't competed in awhile and I'm not ready for such a big event. Without getting into too many details, that kind of event brings out a lot of body insecurity issues I have, and I was more that happy to get the h-e-double hockey sticks out of there.
  20. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    sorry to hear that Purr....

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