Exactly. I was going to say, LordBallroom, go look up this poster's history. He's not brand-new and he pretty much says the same thing each time. Heck, some posters have offered real-life, in-person help. Hand-holding has been tried, it's more at the point of 'suck it up, buttercup' now. Dancing is not a magic problem-solver. dbk's right, at this point it's more about excuse-making and that needs to stop. You have to own your own roadblocks. And raindance is right, there probably needs to be some reevaluation of goals for social dancing.