Does dancing make you question who you are?

chomsky

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#81
Cool. I often *want* to dance every dance, but I can't control my moods. Sometimes I am in the mood to just ask anybody, but often I don't feel like interacting with strangers and quasi-acquaintances at all (meaning I recognize them but dont really know them). That is why I wish I had a regular dance partner to go with. It is nice when I have someone I totally feel comfortable around even when I'm in that weird mood where I don't want to dance with strangers. I used to have that, so I could dance as much or as little with others as my mood happened to be in. But not anymore. So its been harder recently.
I hear you. I used to dance with strangers at first as the party I went to was organised by a school I didn't attend so I knew noone there.
I have been very lucky lately. To be honest, I can't believe my luck. I now have three boy friends that accompany me at parties (me and two more girls). Only a couple of nights ago, I told one of my friends that I'll call him my practice partner as the say in english meaning he is the one that helps me the most practice my moves. (If you are out there, you know I'm talking about you "TO ΠΛΟΙΟ ΓΕΡΝΕΙ!!!"). It does make a difference when you dance with someone on a regular basis. You can relax and not worry about who you are dancing with or if you are dancing with someone in the first place, so I really feel what you mean having spent so much time being out there on my own.
 

chomsky

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#85
Dancing makes me question my identity. I've always been depressed ever since I can remember, if not as depressed as the past 15 years, surely melancolic.
It's only been a year now that I found a meaning in my life I never had before. It's like a rebirth, re-inventing yourself and your life...I don't know if it will last, and the thought it might not terrifies me...For the time being at least, my life is changed, I hope it remains that way.
 

bordertangoman

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#86
Dancing makes me question my identity. I've always been depressed ever since I can remember, if not as depressed as the past 15 years, surely melancolic.
It's only been a year now that I found a meaning in my life I never had before. It's like a rebirth, re-inventing yourself and your life...I don't know if it will last, and the thought it might not terrifies me...For the time being at least, my life is changed, I hope it remains that way.
that sounds good. dont hang too much importance on it, but on the most basic level IME it can change ones mood positively. I did some practice with a friend last night, and even the mistakes were making us laugh..especially when she tired to lead me...
 

chomsky

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#87
that sounds good. dont hang too much importance on it, but on the most basic level IME it can change ones mood positively. I did some practice with a friend last night, and even the mistakes were making us laugh..especially when she tired to lead me...
right'o! even the mistakes should make us laugh!!! you rock bordertangoman!
 
#90
We are all going to have different reasons why we dance...But i have seen the other side the ugly side.The egos hurt.The jelousy...Women are not kind to each other.Everyone is judge and jury(from how you dance/with who),what you wear etc... For me this is the last thing on my mind(i am what you call a rebel(not miss.know it all),i don't stick to rules,i don't tell someone how to dance(i just adopt to them)...One is a free spirit :)
 
#91
Yes definitely dancing changes my entire state of mind. I work a lot and dancing takes away the stress and pressure. Often I close my eyes and just go with the beat. The best (and cheapest and healthy!) soul nurturing ingredient I know of.

I've never done partner dancing before tango and that completely changed everything I had ever experienced about dancing before. Tuning into another person 400% is the most crazy, wild, intriguing, interesting, scary & wonderful experience ever. At least for 3 minutes :-D
 

bordertangoman

Well-Known Member
#92
We are all going to have different reasons why we dance...But i have seen the other side the ugly side.The egos hurt.The jelousy...Women are not kind to each other.Everyone is judge and jury(from how you dance/with who),what you wear etc... For me this is the last thing on my mind(i am what you call a rebel(not miss.know it all),i don't stick to rules,i don't tell someone how to dance(i just adopt to them)...One is a free spirit :)
there's a lot of that about

"Approval and disapproval alike satisfy those who deliver it more than those who receive it. I don't care for approval, and I don't mind doing without.”
― Gregory Maguire


since I teach i dont judge unless you ask me to, or i feel I can help you, or simply I want a better quality of dance with you. I may be the best dancer around, I may does it matter if I am or even if I think i am, or if somebody elese thinks so. Not a whit!*


*whit; a small warbler like bird now extinct**

** I made this up
 

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