fear

chomsky

Well-Known Member
#4
thanks f. For me it is losing my passion for it or being unable to dance for health/financial reasons. I guess we all share some fears, bottomline. And I guess both my fears are this close from becoming a reality.
I guess I just needed someone to get me started on this one.
 

Subliminal

Well-Known Member
#6
That it's just a phase. My whole life I've hopped from hobby to hobby, getting "pretty good" at whatever, then getting bored... or worse... discouraged that I will never be the best. Or at the amount of effort it would take to be the best. Then giving up or just moving on to the next shiny thing.

So far dancing has stuck with me. Perhaps because I chose not to do competitions. Heh. But I still sometimes worry that all the time, all the money, is a waste...
 

chomsky

Well-Known Member
#8
That it's just a phase. My whole life I've hopped from hobby to hobby, getting "pretty good" at whatever, then getting bored... or worse... discouraged that I will never be the best. Or at the amount of effort it would take to be the best. Then giving up or just moving on to the next shiny thing.

So far dancing has stuck with me. Perhaps because I chose not to do competitions. Heh. But I still sometimes worry that all the time, all the money, is a waste...
with you there. that it's just a phase not because of the hobby but because I had never been so excited before...and it won't last for ever as you say...
 

opendoor

Well-Known Member
#9
Re: deepest fear when it comes to dancing?

that i should be doing something more important and worthwhile..
How very deep...and how very close to me too.
I tell you, what seems to be worthwhile for me (concerning dancing), chromsky:

-I easily can find conversation partners that have the same wave length than I have.

-When I feel lonely I have a place to go on the cheap almost every night of the week.

-I easily find contact with girls.

-I can communicate with people from all over the world and from so many different countries and cultures.

-Almost everywhere in this world I have a place to go. I browse the internet where the next tango or salsa party starts and I am at home as soon as I open the door, though thousands of miles from home.

-My knowledge of music history, music theory, and on the classical and style forming orchestras has increased immense.

-When dancing I easily get a feed back which muscles I have to train or that I have to increase my flexibility.

-Dancing is a permanent challenge for me. When training I regularly reach the edges of my skills.

-Since I started dancing (primarily I dance tango) my social skills did increase so much, as did my self-awareness and self-confidence.

-So in the end dancing is body work, sport, intercultural education, social training, dating site. Think thats worthwhile enough, isnt it?

-So will you throw in the towel? You just have started. Dancing skills and social skills will not come easily. Its really a hard job to do for you and there will be so many throwbacks. It seems that you want to cut and run away as soon as the first difficulties arise. You have to climb a really greasy pole and you only face the beginning. Please hold on.
 

chomsky

Well-Known Member
#10
thanks, opendoor, I know you only mean well and I so appreciate your kind help. I guess I will find my way sometime or another...right now things are looking bad but who said life was not going to be hard in the first place? Thanks ever so much for your kind words!
 

samina

Well-Known Member
#13
i got over my fears WRT dancing...so over all of it.

and i could not have said that before a life-change forced me to abort my dance lifestyle.
 

fascination

Site Moderator
Staff member
#14
I have pretty much arrived at the same perspective by simply living through it in my dance life...am really not afraid of anything regarding dance...other than losing my health and that is less a fear than an understanding that nothing lasts forever
 

chomsky

Well-Known Member
#15
I have pretty much arrived at the same perspective by simply living through it in my dance life...am really not afraid of anything regarding dance...other than losing my health and that is less a fear than an understanding that nothing lasts forever
wow, wow, how well you put my fear into words...nothing lasts forever! you see that's where my fear comes from. Dance has given me back my health. I had lost it since 2006 and it feels so weird that one year of doing privates has radically changed it, has given me my health back...no complaining intended here, it's like too good to be true. like daydreaming.
 

nucat78

Active Member
#16
Yeah, I shudder at the thought of a dance-ending injury or illness. Money doesn't worry me so much - social dancing can be relatively cheap. But, as Fasc said, nothing lasts forever.
 
#18
including dance hiatuses...
You're so right samina. There's nothing wrong with a hiatus, why fear it?

One of my hobbies is genealogy--family research--have been doing it for almost 20 yrs. Sometimes I will lay my research aside, 6 mos, or 1 yr, then I will pick it up again and savor the enthusiasm why I started it in the first place. I know I will never end my journey researching my family history...there is ALWAYS something new to learn. And that's how I feel about "little breaks" in dancing as well--I know the break won't be forever because I've committed to myself that dancing is also a never-ending journey for me, even if there are breaks here & there (AND I have a dance friend who is 82 yrs old!!! and still competing, she is an inspiration to me.)
 

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