holding onto woman's breast - during dance

#61
I am pretty well-endowed and I have had multiple accidental gropes over the years, mostly with newbies. They are quick to reposition and apologize, so I've just sort of learned to accept that if you are a woman with larger breasts and partner dance with people (yes, I've been groped by women before as well, specifically a girl I practice with alot as male practice partners are hard to find), you will be accidentally groped. It just happens.
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GUYS KNOW... And they know that we know they know. Then they either apologize and fix the hand position or keep it there thinking maybe we didn't notice. We did.
You know, by now I think I'm so desensitized to accidental brief touch, that I hardly notice it. The hand has to be there for a while for me to notice and even longer to convince me to do something about it. The only time I ever did something about it was at the group class I mentioned earlier on the thread, when I realized that I'll have to put up with it for the next hour unless I do something about it. Shadow position is probably the biggest source of problems because if the guys go for the same hold they would do on a more conventionally-sized lady, they get a handful on me.
 
#62
I think we all know that, but the original question had pretty much been answered.

Although I don't know why you're harping on the "pretty, petite, skinny" aspects of this.
ok thanks I see the conversation wandered off to occasional brushes

as to your second comment because it is very obvious ..I was putting things in context - at the social dances if you are skinny and pretty - you are popular and attract a lot of attention even if your skill level is zero in essence ..this points to possible non dance motives
the lady I mentioned was a relative newbie

thanks all for feedback
 

twnkltoz

Well-Known Member
#63
ok thanks I see the conversation wandered off to occasional brushes

as to your second comment because it is very obvious ..I was putting things in context - at the social dances if you are skinny and pretty - you are popular and attract a lot of attention even if your skill level is zero in essence ..this points to possible non dance motives
the lady I mentioned was a relative newbie

thanks all for feedback
It doesn't matter what she looks like. Breast grabbing is inappropriate, and it happens to girls of all shapes and sizes.
 

danceronice

Well-Known Member
#65
lolz....I am beginning to feel a tad concerned...I am fairly well endowed, and no man has ever accidentally, or purposely, brushed up against my bust :)... ....that is not in any way meant to make light of women for whom this has been a distressing reality...just a bit perplexed and having a bit of fun with that
Heh, and I'm starting to think I'm even less well-endowed than I thought! (That or sufficient closed-hold Standard has kind of tuned me out to upper-chest contact while dancing...)
 

Gorme

Active Member
#66
lolz....I am beginning to feel a tad concerned...I am fairly well endowed, and no man has ever accidentally, or purposely, brushed up against my bust :)... ....that is not in any way meant to make light of women for whom this has been a distressing reality...just a bit perplexed and having a bit of fun with that
On any other occasion, dinner must be bought before any of this can occur.
 

cornutt

Well-Known Member
#67
lolz....I am beginning to feel a tad concerned...I am fairly well endowed, and no man has ever accidentally, or purposely, brushed up against my bust :)... ....that is not in any way meant to make light of women for whom this has been a distressing reality...just a bit perplexed and having a bit of fun with that
That can be arranged... :D Seriously, my DW is well endowed, and, well, it definitely encourages one to maintain a proper topline and lead through the core. I find that if I try to lead through my upper body, I just bounce off. :p
 

fascination

Site Moderator
Staff member
#68
Heh, and I'm starting to think I'm even less well-endowed than I thought! (That or sufficient closed-hold Standard has kind of tuned me out to upper-chest contact while dancing...)
well...that I don't even bat an eyelash over...unless, um, depending upon person involved, I happen to be particularly attuned:cool:
 

Peaches

Well-Known Member
#72
Heh. I remember one time during a lesson my teacher brushed my chest accidentally, with his forearm, I think. I never noticed; I was too focused on the dancing or instruction or whatever was going on. He apologized, and I had no clue what he was apologizing for, which left him explaining. Awkward moment. Talk about desensitized.
 

Wannabee

Well-Known Member
#76
people please there is a huge difference here --not the accidental grazing you and prob every woman experiences ... I am talking about a man who appears to like a skinny petite dancer too much, getting her
I'm quite certain your frustration over my post is a bit over dramatic don't you think? And by your own admission, you didn't even bother to read the posts and follow the conversation, so that you would know when and why I posted what I did.

Secondly, though I did bother to read your posts and you somewhat addressed your obsession with the petite, skinny, pretty thing (though it still seems strange that you insist that this is crucial info to the situation), ANY woman, or man for that matter, can experience abuse. Physical, sexual, emotional abuse is not reserved only for the "skinny, petite, pretty" people.

But I will yield to you being correct that I wandered off topic I suppose. In the future though, you may want to read and consider all the posts that people are kind enough to offer before making decisions regarding their relevance, as sometimes threads do take an unexpected tangent, even despite the efforts of our mods.
 

Gorme

Active Member
#77
One time I was social dancing VW with a lady and she tripped backwards over her own foot. She grabbed onto me and pulled me down on top of her. So not only did she land flat on her back, but I landed on top of her. Instinctively, I had held my hand out in front of me to brace for the impact. Unfortunately, my right hand ended up fully on her breast. I was horrified that I had just punched a woman in the chest when she suddenly popped back up and started asking if i was alright. To top all of that, her teacher happened to be sitting next to where this accident happened. Awkward...
 

fascination

Site Moderator
Staff member
#78
yes...I for one, tend to be lenient about tangents if, and only if, I feel that the bulk of what can be offered regarding the original OP has happened and as long as it doesn't become inflammatory
 
#79
lolz....I am beginning to feel a tad concerned...I am fairly well endowed, and no man has ever accidentally, or purposely, brushed up against my bust :)... ....that is not in any way meant to make light of women for whom this has been a distressing reality...just a bit perplexed and having a bit of fun with that
If it is plausible that a gentleman has a handful and not be aware, as some have argued... Is it equally plausible that you have filled a gentleman's hand and not been aware?

Tongue. Cheek. Planted.
 

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