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#21
fenixfrenzy87 said:
Thanks for the help :D, does anyone else have any tips on the actual grinding aspect of the dance?
Try not to focus so much on the "grinding" aspect. That will happen "naturally" if you get your knees and hips to move "smoothly" :wink:

The hip movement is the same, it is just the closeness of the holds that turn it into "grinding"/"rent a tile" :D
 

pygmalion

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#24
Yup. Keep it small. Newbies see folks on videos doing extreme moves and try to mimic them, not realizing that those people are professional dancers. To start, keep it small. Don't worry about your hands too much; just let them move with your bodies. Touch the girl, not too sexy. Suggestive is better. Touch the small of her back, or her stomach, if she's comfortable with that. Or pretend you're going to touch her, but don't quite connect. Sexy!


Bottom line, just be yourself.
 
#27
alright we got the hips down, thanks a lot. anything anyone culd say about--i guess u culd call it "frontal grinding." where ur pretty much dancin stomachs touchin n stuff. :) i prolly wont get that far, but help wuldnt hurt just in case :D
 

pygmalion

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#29
Pacion said:
fenixfrenzy87 said:
Thanks for the help :D, does anyone else have any tips on the actual grinding aspect of the dance?
Try not to focus so much on the "grinding" aspect. That will happen "naturally" if you get your knees and hips to move "smoothly" :wink:

The hip movement is the same, it is just the closeness of the holds that turn it into "grinding"/"rent a tile" :D
Closeness. Yes. Not necessarily direct contact. I actually prefer it when my partner and I come within an inch or two, but don't touch. It looks and feels sexier, and there's more room for mistakes. If I don't catch his rhythm, it's no big deal.
 

SDsalsaguy

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#30
suckeedancerr said:
alright we got the hips down, thanks a lot. anything anyone culd say about--i guess u culd call it "frontal grinding." where ur pretty much dancin stomachs touchin n stuff. :) i prolly wont get that far, but help wuldnt hurt just in case :D
Ok, here's an example... take the side-to-front-to-side I've mentioned. Well, if you're doing that part than, as the natural counterpart, she'd be doing the side-to-back-to-side thing. And, if one of your legs is planted between hers (and vice versa) you'll already be there. Tah dah!
 
#31
suckeedancerr said:
anything anyone culd say about--i guess u culd call it "frontal grinding." where ur pretty much dancin stomachs touchin n stuff. :)
:doh: try not to focus so much on the "grinding". If you are moving your hips be it forward and back, sideways, in circles or diagonal lines, then you are "grinding". As I said before, it is the CLOSENESS of the hold that will affect whether your stomachs are touching or not :D
 
#35
A few other holds/positions for "grinding":

You mentioned the "stomachs touching" so in that hold, you are facing each other.

Other options are:
- side by side, facing the same direction - her left hip against your right hip or your left hip against her right hip
- side by side, facing opposite directions - her left hip against your left hip or your right hip against her right hip
- back to back
- her back against your front
- your back against her front
 
#36
fenixfrenzy87 said:
Thanks so much guys lol I jus practiced in my mirror....I don't look like a complete jackass, I dont think at least :lol:
Did you remember to check that your knees were bent :wink:
 
#37
Yes lol but I must say that it feels a little awkward :tongue: , so how much are you exactly supposed to bend them? And also are you supposed to only move your knees? Or is it like a lil knees along with a lil hip, like a two part sorta thing.
 
#38
pygmalion said:
Touch the girl, not too sexy. Suggestive is better. Touch the small of her back, or her stomach, if she's comfortable with that. Or pretend you're going to touch her, but don't quite connect. Sexy!
Yes, I agree there too. Generally speaking, not all girls like that direct contact, especially if they don't know you very well. They feel as if they are being mauled/you are an octopus - your hands are getting everywhere! On the other hand, it sounds like this girl likes you so she might not mind. Still, suggestive is a lot better :D

Oh, as for the hands themselves, you can hold her hands, letting the fingers link, look deeply into her eyes, smiling as you do so :wink: and still do all the hip action we have been telling you about :D
 
#40
SDsalsaguy said:
Pacion said:
If this "two day crash course" is successful, do you think we can patent/copyright it :wink:
Sure, why not? And then we can use the procedes to perpetually fund the DF too, right? :lol:
lol SD!

Yes lol but I must say that it feels a little awkward , so how much are you exactly supposed to bend them? And also are you supposed to only move your knees? Or is it like a lil knees along with a lil hip, like a two part sorta thing.
It only feels awkward because you are unaccustomed :D In terms of how much, try out different depths. The deeper the bend/more the knees are bent, the more the hips will move. The straighter the knees, the less the hips will move "naturally". Play with it and try different depths. There is no right or wrong depth. It just depends on what sort of hip action you want.

Another option for the feet is to have one knee straighter than the other, say your left knee bent (and therefore the weight is on your leftside) and your right knee straighter (and of course, your feet are wider apart, almost like a little lunge) and, shift your weight slightly from left to right so that the left knee straights a little, and the right knee bends a little bit more, but not quite as much. Now, you have a different sort of grind action going on :wink:

Wow! Trying to put this in to words is really making me think :cry: :lol:

PS. Notice how this guy => :banana: is bending his knees and not moving his hips :wink: :D
 

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