Leading - is it just me?

Sagitta

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#81
hopelessly_addicted said:
megaproto said:
well the only problem with me leading is that i want to touch my partner hips, but i wonder if it will be quite offensive to dance with stranger and your hands all over her, girls please tell me, i really want to touch your hips!! :oops: so what should i do? how do i know if i can touch their hips when i dance?

well if i ask them "can i touch your hips?" that would be quite.... err..... :?

so what do you guys do? :( (want hip)

oh do you guys know any move that involve touching the hips? please share! :) I want to learn!!
urrmmm sorry megaproto but hip touching is not really common when dancing salsa I think! There is no way anyone other than my bf touching my hips when dancing..... :roll:
Oh!! I guess it depend on the person. I like to lead CBL's and inside turns with hands on hips. Better for the less experience followers as the lead is dead clear. For the advanecd followers one can play with the music, letting the follower into it almost when it is too late, resulting in a extra crispness to the moves.

However, you better know what you are doing. Followers can usually get an idea of what your intention is. If you want to use the hips to add flavor to the dancing it usually is ok. If you come across as sleazy and wanting to touch the lady all over you are in hot water.

So MP? You sound pretty desperate to touch the ladies hips. Not a good start, guy. Not a good start.
 
#82
When I'm dancing with a guy and his hands spend a lot of time on my hips, I am never sure whether it's just really bad technique or general sleaziness. Either way I'm not keen on it.

However, there are many moves that are work well with a brief touch to the waist or the top of the hip. As long as the hand is not lingering over much, or straying towards my crotch or backside, it's not a problem at all.

Salsa is a close-together dance. There's going to be some touching.
 
#83
Sagitta said:
However, you better know what you are doing. Followers can usually get an idea of what your intention is. If you want to use the hips to add flavor to the dancing it usually is ok. If you come across as sleazy and wanting to touch the lady all over you are in hot water.
Very true.

So MP? You sound pretty desperate to touch the ladies hips. Not a good start, guy. Not a good start.
He does sound desperate. :lol: megaproto, on the floor, try to not come across quite the way you did in your post or you may get hopelessly_addicted's response. Be cool about it. 8)
 

tsb

Well-Known Member
#84
the idea of offering constructive advice makes me feel like i need to wipe off my keyboard & monitor afterwards, but i will say that it takes a certain approach to touching a woman in the places other than the ones involved traditional open/closed position holds to maintain her comfort level.
 
#85
:lol: :doh:

Agreed.

I should emphasize that I've only led a woman by her hips twice. And one of those times, she was the instigator. I suppose I was thinking more of dancing sensuously and sexy with someone.
 

tsb

Well-Known Member
#86
tacad said:
And one of those times, she was the instigator.
(while taking a break form cleaning - the cranberry juice overflowed in the refigerator)

explain this to me tonight when you come over. & i've got DWTS on tape.
 
#87
Sagitta said:
hopelessly_addicted said:
megaproto said:
well the only problem with me leading is that i want to touch my partner hips, but i wonder if it will be quite offensive to dance with stranger and your hands all over her, girls please tell me, i really want to touch your hips!! :oops: so what should i do? how do i know if i can touch their hips when i dance?

well if i ask them "can i touch your hips?" that would be quite.... err..... :?

so what do you guys do? :( (want hip)

oh do you guys know any move that involve touching the hips? please share! :) I want to learn!!
urrmmm sorry megaproto but hip touching is not really common when dancing salsa I think! There is no way anyone other than my bf touching my hips when dancing..... :roll:
Oh!! I guess it depend on the person. I like to lead CBL's and inside turns with hands on hips. Better for the less experience followers as the lead is dead clear. For the advanecd followers one can play with the music, letting the follower into it almost when it is too late, resulting in a extra crispness to the moves.
CBLs and inside turns with hands on hips are fine. But that's side of the hips isn't it? Not right in the middle of the hips where sleaze bags tend to pinch :p

Sagitta said:
Followers can usually get an idea of what your intention is.
You got that right! And that's exactly why i reacted to MP's post as I did caues from what he wrote, the intention didn't come across as "pure" :? :p
 
#88
hopelessly_addicted said:
Sagitta said:
hopelessly_addicted said:
megaproto said:
well the only problem with me leading is that i want to touch my partner hips, but i wonder if it will be quite offensive to dance with stranger and your hands all over her, girls please tell me, i really want to touch your hips!! :oops: so what should i do? how do i know if i can touch their hips when i dance?

well if i ask them "can i touch your hips?" that would be quite.... err..... :?

so what do you guys do? :( (want hip)

oh do you guys know any move that involve touching the hips? please share! :) I want to learn!!
urrmmm sorry megaproto but hip touching is not really common when dancing salsa I think! There is no way anyone other than my bf touching my hips when dancing..... :roll:
Oh!! I guess it depend on the person. I like to lead CBL's and inside turns with hands on hips. Better for the less experience followers as the lead is dead clear. For the advanecd followers one can play with the music, letting the follower into it almost when it is too late, resulting in a extra crispness to the moves.
CBLs and inside turns with hands on hips are fine. But that's side of the hips isn't it? Not right in the middle of the hips where sleaze bags tend to pinch :p

Sagitta said:
Followers can usually get an idea of what your intention is.
You got that right! And that's exactly why i reacted to MP's post as I did caues from what he wrote, the intention didn't come across as "pure" :? :p

Ohhh HueahueHAerhauhEUAEHue ohkay its just that i saw this move on the music video clips and the guy touch the girls on the side of the body and hips and it looks really hot that why i want to do it that is all.... nothing sleazy! :lol: HONEST! :)
 

Sagitta

Well-Known Member
#89
tacad said:
:lol: :doh:

Agreed.

I should emphasize that I've only led a woman by her hips twice. And one of those times, she was the instigator. I suppose I was thinking more of dancing sensuously and sexy with someone.
Dude you are missing out. I only have been rejected by one lady with the hip thing...well two... But when I learnt the the second one was a naive 17!!?!! Her I forgave. She is one of my fave dancers anyway. Like her style especially with her long old fashioned dresses looking almost like a Amish girl...
 

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