Problems as couple learning dance

Hedwaite

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#81
I still think that if you want to dance with your husband, separating (in the context that some of the others are using to take separate lessons, other dancers, for a sustained period of time, etc.) isn't the way to go about it. You can have both, but it's very difficult to keep both happy. I just think there are instructors who exist who can work with a couple and keep them intact a little more easily than seems to be the scenario.
 

fascination

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Staff member
#82
that is your perspective...I am only saying that there are other legitimate opinions...while there are possibly these "divide and conquer" instructors of which you speak...there are opportunistic instructors on the other end who prefer couples so that all they have to do is sit on their duffs and yammer and not really have to display their talent or lack thereof.....while I hear you saying that, given a good instructor, dancing together is the best route...some couples may never have gotten that far, becuase of their own personalities and/or relationship dynamics....it is possible for two people to progress separately and dance well together...and for their relationship to be the better for it...like two people who know they can't cook in the kitchen together but can enjoy the meal....there is no quick fix with either route.....some will succeed one way, some the other....or fail either way...different strokes for different folks
 

Hedwaite

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#83
I know. I was just saying that maybe they need to branch out and look around a little more, at what other instruction options are available, assuming they're not cookie-cutter.
 

fascination

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Staff member
#84
I can ertainly agree with the idea of people needing to shop around...it is hard to be wise about an instructor when one is new...it is hard to be objective about an instuctor once one has been with them al while...neither is a good thing...and when a problem arises, that always needs to be a consideration
 
#85
while there are possibly these "divide and conquer" instructors of which you speak...there are opportunistic instructors on the other end who prefer couples so that all they have to do is sit on their duffs and yammer and not really have to display their talent or lack thereof.....while I hear you saying that, given a good instructor, dancing together is the best route...some couples may never have gotten that far, becuase of their own personalities and/or relationship dynamics....it is possible for two people to progress separately and dance well together...and for their relationship to be the better for it...like two people who know they can't cook in the kitchen together but can enjoy the meal....there is no quick fix with either route.....some will succeed one way, some the other....or fail either way...different strokes for different folks
I do agree! Most times in a private lesson, we would practice lead/follow in front of our instructor repeatly through some patterns. I'm sometimes wondering that we both would perhaps improve much faster if each practices lead/follow with a instructor or advanced dancer. I liked the idea that two people progress separately and dance well together.
 
#87
Here is my possible alternative: What if BOTH of you together decided to dance with pros? How would you feel about HIM dancing with a pro to better his game? This would definitely improve his skills. However, he would have to be willing to do this first. (Fish may not want to.)
Good suggestion! I would be very pleased to see his dancing with a pro to better his game. I will talk to him today! Thank you!
 
#88
I sometimes wished that if I could pay for an instructor or advanced dancer to just dance with me a couple of hours a week in party or alone while still taking lessons and social with my husband. What do you guys think?
 

Loki

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#96
I would be thrilled if a silver or above in technique guy wanted to make himself available for parties and practices....
Standard/Latin or Smooth/Rhythm?

I see very few people dancing Standard at socials and when they do, many other dancers wonder what they're doing. Perhaps I need to "raise the bar" on the socials I attend.
 

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