Quitting Dancing

chomsky

Well-Known Member
#21
Years ago, I told my husband I would give up dancing if that meant I could have a horse again. That was such a lie. I couldn't give it up. In fact, I just finalized the deal to let the horse go to someone else to enjoy so I can refocus that time and money on dance. I do know people who have given it up, though, who had been very dedicated. One couple just couldn't get to the level they wanted to, and they decided they'd rather stop dancing than continue not living up to their own expectations. Another competed for years and met basically all of her goals and I think she just lost her heart for it.
I loved that you shared this twnkltoz...
 

Dots

Active Member
#23
Well, this is it; my last private lesson is tonight and then it’s over. I took the time to prepare a gift; an album with pictures from the past 4 years, complete with dates and comments. My goal will be to elicit more laughs / smiles out of my teacher than tears, which will not be easy (I was her first student, so it’s bound to get emotional). I hope I can pull it off.

I’ll dig into my arsenal and bring out songs like “gummy bears”, “Gungnam Style” and “Share it maybe” (the last being sung by the Cookie Monster). I know the songs are ridiculous, but at least they make people smile :)

Wish me luck!
 

chomsky

Well-Known Member
#25
Well, this is it; my last private lesson is tonight and then it’s over. I took the time to prepare a gift; an album with pictures from the past 4 years, complete with dates and comments. My goal will be to elicit more laughs / smiles out of my teacher than tears, which will not be easy (I was her first student, so it’s bound to get emotional). I hope I can pull it off.

I’ll dig into my arsenal and bring out songs like “gummy bears”, “Gungnam Style” and “Share it maybe” (the last being sung by the Cookie Monster). I know the songs are ridiculous, but at least they make people smile :)

Wish me luck!
I so feel for you!
 

Dots

Active Member
#26
That sounds so sadly, Dots. Will there actually be no way to keep on dancing?
Oh I will still dance, but just maybe not in the context of an AM franchise, that’s all. I loved every moment of it, and I have preserved every move, from Bronze 1 to silver 1, in over 800 pages of pdf documents, complete with foot drawings and such. Now it just means I get to transfer as much of that knowledge to my fiancée and make a cool wedding dance. I also have a project of making my own private Android app to sort through all the moves, just to geek out. So yes, dancing will still be part of my life, but in a different way ;)

Yesterday’s last lesson was a complete success! The Gummy Bear song was perfect, turning a sad moment into chuckling and then laughter! My verdict, everyone should have a few completely ridiculous songs on their phones / MP3 players for emergencies :p
 
#28
College is one of those things that has really gotten in the way of dancing. It's mostly the money factor, and my school doesn't have a ballroom program like most in New England do. However, I've been doing everything I can to keep up with lessons, so I suppose I have to give myself credit for trying. I'm a go-hard-or-go-home kind of person, so I'm just trying to enjoy the fun of college before my life revolves around dancing again.
 

Ailuene

Active Member
#30
I actually am on the flip side of the coin then, I guess. :p I didn't pick up ballroom until college and now I'm downright addicted, haha!

I will say though, since I'm a premedical student, I'm terrified of going to medical school not because I'm worried I won't be able to handle it but because I'm pretty sure it will mean giving up ballroom for probably near 10 years. :(
 

Mr 4 styles

Well-Known Member
#31
since I'm a premedical student, I'm terrified of going to medical school not because I'm worried I won't be able to handle it but because I'm pretty sure it will mean giving up ballroom for probably near 10 years. :(
not really you wont be able to do as much but you can still use it as your workout trust me im a .. well you know:p
 

Gorme

Active Member
#33
I will say though, since I'm a premedical student, I'm terrified of going to medical school not because I'm worried I won't be able to handle it but because I'm pretty sure it will mean giving up ballroom for probably near 10 years. :(

There's a guy here that has been dancing champ latin all throughout his medical program. Even when he was doing his residency, he was attending comps. When asked how he did it, he said that he cut back on sleep.
 

Wannabee

Well-Known Member
#37
Since I started dancing 4 years ago, there was never a day that I was not thinking about it, practicing, going to lessons, watching videos, going to comps, preparing for comps or showcases, etc. I thought for sure there would never come a day when I would not be involved in dancing in some capacity.

But it seems my hand has been forced on the issue of trying to decide if I love dancing enough to compromise my own set of convictions or to stand my ground and quit. I guess I just always thought that if I ever did quit dancing, it would be on my own terms. It seems I may have been mistaken. I feel as though I'm being forced out by circumstances beyond my control, or stay and feel as though I'm not respecting myself enough. Sigh. I hope no one else ever has to go through this. My hope is that we all come to dancing and leave it when the time comes on our own terms.
 

fascination

Site Moderator
Staff member
#38
hug....I am confident that when ever we make a good decision, opportunity /joy will somehow find a way to flow...and when we don't, continued misery is certain...nother hug
 

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