This thread is confusing. At times it seems like pygmalion is talking to herself. Were people responding, and then their posts got deleted? Or maybe they posted in a different thread and pygmalion responded here.
I'm worried about youngsta because I know he is in a military unit deployed to Iraq and he was supposed to have gotten home in time for a salsa congress a couple months back ... but I haven't heard anything. Not sure where he is -- whether his unit has been asked to stay longer in Iraq or what. And, since he's on a military mission, he can't exactly check in often to let us know how he is.
The truth is that I often think about the DFers that I don't see here. I just don't ask, unless I'm really worried.