Unavoidable Truths of Life and Gems of Wisdom


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change is fun. change also leads to losses. change makes your more soulful while making you a bit heartless. change adds so much to life, while stealing away old gifts that you cherished for long. if you embrace change, be willing lose some, and hope and try to gain far more.
yeah, change involves releasing old patterns to make way for the new... and grieving can be a very big part of that... i've grieved an ocean in this lifetime... but i always made way for an ocean of happiness by doing so. i wouldn't say it has made me more heartless... quite the opposite.

IME, grieving can feel like you're dying along with the object of your grief, but one doesn't... as long as you release every drop of it, you make it to the other side and there is only emptiness, into which you can fill all manner of joy.

and then, change can also be like decluttering, emptying out all the way down to only what's essential & beloved in your life... i used to help people declutter, and i know that if they don't do it quickly enuf, they start to get bogged down and overwhelmed. it sure does help to just make the decision & go for it, like ripping off a bandaid without thinking too much about it along the way!


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I can only be responsible for myself.
While I may not have control over what happens to me, I have full control over how I react to things.
Accept, accept, accept...forgive, forgive, forgive.
My life is entirely mine. It may not be what I dreamed of, or what I expected, or what I'd honestly prefer--but it's all mine, it's all I've got, and it's up to me and only me to make the most of it.

Also, and this is kind of particular given that I'm a non-believer, I believe you only get one chance in this world to make a difference. There is no asking for forgiveness, there is no redemption, there is no chance at heaven. It's up to me to behave humbly and courteously and kindly and with grace to those around me--to ask forgiveness from them when i don't. Heaven is what I make for myself and others while I'm here.
Came across this quote. Very true.

"Be careful how you judge others...As Scottish author J.M. Barrie said, 'Never ascribe to an opponent motives meaner than your own..." We tend to judge others based on their behaviour, and ourselves based on out intent. In almost all situtaions, we would do well to recognize the possibility-even probablity-of good intent in others..sometimes despite their observable behaviour." -Stephen M.R. Covey in 'The Speed of Trust'


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The personality trait that makes you fall in love with a person will someday be the thing you most dislike about that person. Every positive trait has a negative side, and if you live with someone long enough the negative side will manifest itself. When you first experience the negative, it would be easy to feel let down. But a good relationship is one in which both parties acknowledge the two-faceted nature of their characteristics, and continue to celebrate the positive aspects while forgiving the negative.

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1) If George W Bush tells you that you're doing a great job, your career, political or otherwise IS TOAST!

2. You can learn a lot about a person by dancing with them

3. It takes a person with a big heart and an equal intelligence to admit they’re wrong about something; likewise, it takes a person with a tiny heart and an even smaller intelligence to have to ALWAYS be right all the time, it’s people like these that start cults.

4. The 9 most dreaded words in the English language: “I’m from the government and I’m here to help”.

5. Never live or die by other people’s opinions of you. Even your detractors will grudgingly respect you for sticking to your guns and holding onto your principles

6. There's no such thing as useless information

7. Much like a car in neutral will go nowhere, a person who is neutral will live likewise.

8. Life is way too short, too rich and too worthwhile to spend hours in front of a TV

9. Clichéd but still true, if something sounds too good to be true, it very likely is just that.

10. ANY group that claims that they’re the ONLY ones on the whole planet doing it right, is presided over by a loud, egocentric, fast-talking charismatic leader, makes a lot of grandiose promises and/or tries to make you feel inadequate/guilty or somehow less than worthy a person if you don’t sign on to their cause is one that must be avoided at all costs.

11. Legislation will NEVER fix or change problems that are deeply rooted in the human soul

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